(Closed) Are you and your husband always together?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Are you and your husband always together?

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  • Post # 107
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We’re together a lot, but I spend time with my friends at least once a week, a shopping night/movie night, or dinner out for drinks. He doesn’t really have any friends, but he works all nights, on his one or two days off a week we typically have a billion things to get done. 

    My Fiance had a few friends when we met, but they were 22/23, and he was 26, the 3 years seemed to be a huge difference. Once he was in long term relationship I was automatically a terrible person who stole their friend, he doesn’t speak to any of them anymore.

    I keep hoping he will make a friend or two at work, but working security alone and seeing a co-worker for a few minutes every shift switch doesn’t make for easy friends.  

    Post # 108
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  My Fiance works nights (2-10:30 pm) and I either work 10-6 pm or 1-9 pm so I’m alone in the evenings and he is alone in the late morning/early afternoon after I head to work.  We both enjoy having our own personal down time at home but I am always excited to see him when he gets off work and if we have a day off together we always spend it just the two of us.  He is one of two people (other than my BFF of over 10 years) that I feel completely at ease with and can truly be myself around.  We’ve been together for 4 years now and even the most mundane errand is more fun with him around.  I couldn’t imagine ever finding that with anyone else 😀

    Post # 109
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

    Quite surprised by a lot of the replies in this post! I love speending time with Fiance of course, but we both have our own friends and activities which we enjoy more WITHOUT the other there!

    Plus it’s always lovely to come home to him!

    Post # 109
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

     

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    Bunny_the_Bride:  we live together wake up togther shower together then we ride to work together and spend the next 8 hours AT WORK TOGETHER!!! When we leave work we go to the gym I get tuesday and thursday for an hour at bootcamp other than that we spend 24 hours together 7 days a week! I can not say that I hate it or am even tired of it because we are each others best friends.

    I like that we are close together and can talk to each other and hope that it doesnt get old caus eIm not sure what we’d do if that happened!

    Post # 110
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    Bunny_the_Bride:  umm i voted yes cos i guess we are. He doesnt go out with his friends that often, mostly theyll come to our house so im there or we go out and i’ll come too with my friends. Other than that we hang out all day. We eat together, watch tv together, go to town together and when he paints the house i stand and hold the ladder. I guess we do spend a lot of time together but it isnt noticeable its not a chore – we obviously like being around each other we’re married haha! He works away from home a lot so its natural for us to be around each other a lot when he is home

    Post # 111
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I love hubby, but if I didn’t get my alone time or nights out with my girls I’d go crazy. I don’t need it often, hubby is my best friend and I love spending time together. Once or twice a month for a night out with the girls is enough to recharge me. 

    Post # 112
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    Bunny_the_Bride:  yes. The only time we are apart is during work hours. Once a week DH hangs out with the guys and all that it involves is food-beer-and playing video games. Sometimes DH wi have attorney meetings after work but other than that we are always together. We do see the family a lot too which fine bc I love loveeee his family and I am close with them, so its always fun. I am actually going through a weird thing with my girlfriends, I used to hang out with them but ever since I got back from my honeymoon its been very distant btwn us. Im upset but not too much bc all I need is my husband in life. 

    Post # 113
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We are not married yet (waiting for October) but we are like a finger & a nail. We are together 24/7. We sleep together, wakeup together, shower together, drive together to work, we work together and on the same floor. We have our lunch together daily.  We don’t drink and obviously never go to pubs or clubs. We attend parties hosted by colleagues together we even attend kids parties when our son is invited together.  God we even go to the salon together to have manis and pedis. We are so inseparable that we even accompany one another downstairs to the kitchen most times.

    But we are staying in a foreign country where we met so we don’t have friends & don’t see the need to make them. We love being together & we’ve already agreed that after the wedding we would be a tongue and saliva. We plan to keep things the same even after our return home. He is older so I can’t really be friends with his friends and him the same way with mine. We are not fans of couples friendships and we’ll never go on a vacation with other couples also. We don’t want to be caught in couple dynamics when there are break ups and new partners etc.

    This is just us & it’s working for us best. We never run out of something to talk about also.

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 2 months ago by Keke84.
    Post # 114
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    Helper bee

    You both need lives outside of your relationship.  It is not healthy to ‘only’ have him.  

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