Post # 1
Title sums it up, are you and your SO in the same or similar industries and do you or would you network together?
We are in similar industries. He works in IT on the development side of the type of tool I use daily (but not the same tool). We will be moving to a new state in the summer and as such we are interested in applying at similar companies, but as drastically different roles.
I have been tweeting with someone at one of the companies and will be meeting him for lunch just to discuss the industry in general, they do not have any open positions-but given he is on the IT side, I think Fiance would be a better fit to meet him. Fiance is keeping his networking on the d/l though, because people he works with follow him and he doesn’t want it to be known that he is looking.
I think it would be unprofessional to suggest that I bring him to introduce him, but what if it turned out to be the perfect fit for each other? Should I mention at the lunch that that I want to introduce them (on Linkedin), but just not specify that he is my Fiance (just say I know someone in the industry looking, think they’d be a fit, etc).
So bees, any of you work with your SOs or in similar industries? Ever run in to anything like this?
Post # 3
@kmarie719: My husband and I both work in the agriculture industry and our jobs go hand in hand. We often refer customers to each other. I wouldn’t bring your FI to your interview. However, I would mention that you know somebody that would be fit for the position. I would give the interviewer his information (if he has a business card) and let the interviewer pursue it from there. Good luck!
Post # 4
Nope. I work in buying for a chemical company and he’s in the entertainment industry. I’m glad we’re not, I don’t see a relationship with 2 people in his line of work ever really working out.
Post # 5
My Fiance and I are both in the same industry, and the company he works for is a client of the company I work for. We haven’t networked together per se, but when he hears about job opportunities in our field that may be of interest to me, he passes them on or lets me know. It’s nice because he knows exactly what kind of work I am interested in, so if he sees something that would be a good fit, he can tell me about it.
Post # 6
My Fiance and I are both in the same industry and both work for the same company but different departments. We couldn’t work together, work policy.
Post # 7
Darling Husband and I are in similiar fields. We met at work, though don’t work at the same place now. Sometimes I feel weird about it, but if there’s an opportunity that he would be perfect for, I’ll throw his name out there. I wouldn’t go further than that, but I think its appropriate to suggest someone you know that you think would be good for the job.
Post # 8
Another nope. I work in the legal world and SO is in aviation. I’m trying to get out of the legal world and into accoutning or something along those lines.
Post # 9
My husband and I work with the exact same technology and at one point even worked for the same company (the company that makes this technology). We do a lot of networking together and have a lot of friends doing the same type of job with the same products, so it’s only natural that we share leads on job openings and stuff. But we have a cut-off of sorts, where if one of us is approached by someone we both know, we just kind of tag along as we see fit, but if it’s a third party (like a new manager at my company or a new technology partner with whom we have only a professional relationship, or a headhunter, etc) we are clear about our relaitonships when making introductions. It is a very small community and to avoid anyone drawing the wrong conclusions about our actions, we are very clear with all professional contacts (other than those we actually consider friends) that we are married, especially when it comes to contract/client referrals or job openings.
Post # 10
We work in the same industry (insurance), which is very male dominated. I hate networking, so I tend to avoid whenever possible. He’s a lot better at it, and also a lot further along in his career. It’s something I know I need to get better at…
Post # 11
Sometimes we do, but not always. I think some people make networking too regimented. If we’re out at dinner talking with people in the industry a certain amount of networking occurs. It happens at work Christmas parties. As undergrads, we both attended industry nights and we sat together for the presentations.
Post # 12
FH is a tattoo artist and I’m an esthetician who also does tattoo removal. We refer clients to each other constantly! We even work for the same person. Our boss owns 6 tattoo shops and a laser center!
Post # 13
@pink_sherbert: I am also new to networking, I’m typically very shy and it’s not easy!
We both have a ‘dream’ employer in the new state, but it’s on the smaller side (200 employees), but if we somehow both were hired we’d be in completely different ends of the department and entirely different roles. I’ve been following them on social media for some time, I attended an event they held in January, introduced myself to one person, and then was contacted the beginning of April about a position.
The person I am meeting this week makes the software the dream company mentioned above uses. They don’t actually have any openings, so I think we’ll just discuss our careers and the industry in general. I don’t see a role there for me as much as there would be for Fiance. I’ve never actually met someone over coffee or anything so this will be a learning experience!
@fishbone: For sure, very important to be upfront and honest from the get go!
Post # 14
@kmarie719: I’m also really shy naturally. It’s really hard to force myself out of my shell, but I know sometimes it has to be done.
Best of luck with the coffee meeting next week. Hopefully you’ll hear about some new openings. Companies sometimes create positions for the right people, so fingers crossed. Though they do usually have to also advertise internally and externally first (at least in this country they do).
I’ve previously worked in the same company as Darling Husband, and I didn’t like it (we were in the same team, and saw each other every day). Even in a bigger company / different teams, I’d find it a bit awkward e.g. in terms of future career progression, and job stability e.g. if dream company is in financial distress in the future.