(Closed) Are you and your SO polar opposites? Or exactly alike?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

There are things we are so much alike on it’s scary. Then there’s those moments of WTF that’s what you think?!?!??! But, as you said OP, it helps us see things differently and get a fresh perspective. 

Post # 4
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@roxy821:  Like you, we have a lot of the same values and beliefs. But I would say that’s about where the similarity ends.

  • We hardly ever agree on the same movies, where to eat, what to eat, what music to listen to, etc.
  • He’s neater than I am. I’m definitely not messy, but I’m not very organized and if things aren’t in certain places it drives him nuts.
  • I’m a planner, he won’t make plans until the day of.
  • I worry about everything and over-analyze, he’s more laid-back.
  • He’s a saver, I’m more of a spender.


We both love: traveling, vacations, animals, and relaxing at home. We’re both not big partiers.


Post # 5
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Beliefs wise, we’re pretty similar, although we do clash on a few topics. We also are fairly similar personality wise. We both are hard working and organized, have many of the same interests ect, but there are lots of ways we balance each other out too. For instance he can tend to get stressed easily, where I am usually pretty easy going and I am very sensitive and emotional while he is capable of looking at things moe objectively.

Post # 6
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I guess it depends on what we’re talking about, because fiance and I can be both. We’re very similar personality-wise, but when it comes to anything else, we’re totally different. He’s pretty health-conscious and I’m more on the lazy side. I’m a (mostly) vegetarian and he loves meat. He loves horror movies and those make me nauseous. He’s a crazy saver and I like to buy myself stuff (although I’m getting more towards saver with the wedding and wanting a house). I think we complement each other and balance one another out at the same time.

Post # 7
7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think we’re pretty similar, but he’s more positive.  He sees the good in people more readily and is much more easygoing. 

Post # 8
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We are a LOT alike with a few differences here and there…we love music, traveling, eating out…we have the same beliefs and like the same things…the difference is he like to cook, I don’t, he will save way quicker than I will, and I tend to be the storm and he is the calm after the storm.

Post # 9
5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We have the same sense of humor and sometimes we share a brain.  We’ll be watching TV and both blurt out the same random thing.  Scary sometimes!

But he’s much more into technology than I am.  I’m much more patient.  He’s more athletic.  I’m a better listener.

Post # 10
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are very much alike when it comes to interests. We are both into geeky things (video games, cartoons, comics, etc…), we both love cars, we both like food (eating and cooking it), Heavy Metal music, Marilyn Manson (in a way his music started our relationship, I should write him a letter….) We like all the same movies, etc.

I guess he has more of a temper then I do. I tend to let things not bother me and just be “meh” about it. Whereas he gets red in the face and starts wanting to hurt things. I think in this way I can help calm him with my attitude and in turn he can help me stand up for myself alittle more.


Post # 11
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re very much alike in a lot of ways.  We’re the same as far as being balanced about spending and saving money.  We’re both neat freaks, almost to an OCD level (we joke that we are “OC” but not to the “D,” level because it works for us).  I would say I’m more emotional but he is more prone to being guilt-tripped than I am.  I am more “street smart” and he was more sheltered. 

We’re both logical and precise by nature.  I’m more insecure than he is, or he’s better at hiding it, anyway.  We like doing the same things, we’re both very physically active and love the outdoors.  We’re both physically affectionate.  I am more verbal than he is, but he’s pretty good at communication overall.  I am more spiritually inclined than he is, he’s more agnostic when it comes to spiritiual matters.  We’re enough alike that we can fairly easily read each other’s minds.

Post # 12
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Same views. Same dark, cryptic sense of humor. Same lack of religion. Same long-term goals.

In terms of little things though- we’re nothing alike. He’s a traditional nerd..like Dungeons and Dragons, WoW, Zelda..

I’m more of a girly girl.

Basically I’m supremely high maintenance, and he’s the opposite.

Post # 13
296 posts
Helper bee

Exactly the same! It’s like we’re constantly reading each others’ minds. We have a lot of “jinx” moments, where we say the same thing at the same time, or we complete each other’s thoughts or sentences.

We have the exact same sense of humor; exact same taste in music, fashion, food; pretty similar taste in movies and books; exact same political and religious views; we have very similar and compatible future goals (before we ever started talking, we had both had the same dreams of moving to California and having a big family). We share most of the same personality traits. There isn’t much we disagree on, and the points where we differ are so minor that it has no impact on our relationship. It makes for a harmonious relationship between us, and also makes it easy to plan dates, since neither of us ever has to do much compromising.

Of course, we both grew up in the Chicago suburbs, attended some of the same schools through high school, and come from pretty similar family backgrounds, so we’ve had many of the same personality-shaping experiences. But there are a lot of people that are similar in these regards, too, and I can’t stand a lot of them, haha. Overall, I love the unique connection we have, and he and I feel lucky to have each other. Smile 


Post # 14
5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We definitely share the most important values and beliefs, but after that we’re really different. I’m outgoing and extroverted; he’s fairly shy and introverted. I’m much more optimistic; he’s much more pessimistic. I’m more of a spender; he’s more of a saver. For the most part it works.

Post # 15
296 posts
Helper bee

@GroovyHippieChick:  We have the same sense of humor and sometimes we share a brain.  We’ll be watching TV and both blurt out the same random thing.  


Post # 16
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

SO and i are on the same page regarding values, morals, life priorities, etc. but we are also very very different! he is religious, i am not. he is the most patient person ever, i am definitely not. i have the shortest temper! he is very romantic and very affectionate, i am not so much. he is european, i’m asian. we are very opposite in some ways! but it works.

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