Post # 1
I put “Formal Invitation to Follow” but people keep posting on our website or calling us saying. “I got the Invitation today! very excited”….Our Save the Date’s were very nice but I don’t want them to think they are our actual invitations!
I bet these people will get really confused in a few months when they receive another ” Invitation” lol
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Ugh yes, the one that annoys me the most with this is FI!! He keeps asking me why I am sending out three sets of invitations to our wedding.
In his mind this is me sending out three sets of invitations to the same event…
- Save the Dates
- Wedding Invitations
- Rehearsal Dinner Invitations
I keep trying to explain and he just thinks it’s a stupid waste of money and why didn’t we just send everything at one time? Or send an e-mail? Or won’t people just know about the rehearsal dinner without an invitation? I beg him to just let it go and not try to understand it but trust me that I am not doing anything overly extravagant here…SMH
I was more understanding to overseas relatives where I know the Save the Dates are not as common.
Post # 4
No. I figure a lot of people aren’t looking at wedding planning ideas/blogs don’t know about these things. I’m just happy they’re happy for me!
Post # 5
I did not have one single person think it was the real invite. Then again save the dates are very common in my family, and on both my and FI’s sides we’ve had a lot of recent weddings so I guess they’re used to it. We probably would have gotten some very confused responses if they thought it was the invite…all it had was the date and city and no other info.
Post # 6
@little_lamb: I felt really stupid about feeling annoyed so I kept it to myself but I did! So glad someone can relate. One of fiance’s friends who frequents his bookstore kept coming in and everytime would mention that he was confused by our ‘invitation’ and casually complained that there wasn’t enough information on it!
1) It had our wedding website listed prominently with a TON of info on it.
2) He had just gotten married himself… how is he THAT oblivious?
3) It also said ‘formal invitation to follow’
It bothered me way more that he was bother/complaining to my FH about it than it actually bothered my fiance. He thought it was funny. Men!
Post # 7
Don’t get me wrong bee’s…I’m not really “Annoyed” I just think is funny 🙂 Our Save the Dates had just our names, date, venue location and “formal invitation to follow”.
I think I am just excited for our real invitations, they are beautiful. I am also very happy that people are so excited to share in our day, regardless if they think its an actual invite or not. Its trivial I know but humorous also.
Post # 8
Everybody asked me why on earth i was sending my invitations out eight months early. It said, quite clearly, “Formal invitation to follow”
Post # 9
Yes! I got so many questions about what time and where the event would be bec my invitation didn’t say. Omg how many times did I have to say ‘we actually don’t have a start time finalized yet, it’s still a year away, this is just a save the date! Formal invitations will follow!’
Maybe Save-The-Date Cards are a trend that developed in just the last decade. There hadn’t been a wedding in either of our families for over 12 years.
Post # 10
I only had one person, my cousin, text me and say he’s RSVPing for the wedding with his plus one. I was like great! Thanks! But the invites don’t go out until February! He was like, wait, I swear I got something in the mail. I’m like, yes, you did, but that’s just a reminder to save the date since our wedding is on a Friday. We wanted to give everyone a heads up! LOL.
Post # 11
We only had one family (sister in law’s) who RSVPd. Her kids are in the bridal party, so I guess they’re excited? I’m sure a few people already know they aren’t coming; I wish we’d get some no responses, so we can invite more people. It never seems to go that way.
Post # 12
@PABride: That is ture…there is a benifit to people thinking the save the dates are the actual invites…we have had one couple say they cant make it. its great because we can add other people we wanted there but just couldnt invite due to numbers…
Post # 13
Since I’ve never actually received a save the date, just formal invites, we decided to forego sending save the dates altogether precisely because people would be confused. It is a shame though since save the dates are adorable .
Post # 14
@little_lamb: lol. I’m not annoyed but it’s pretty funny! It’s happened a lot for us, too. Especially with the men on the guest list. Doens’t help that Mr. S refers to them as the invitations, too! “Babe…. those were NOT our invitations…”