- Statutory Grape
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
We’re really not, but sometimes I feel cornered/trapped because FH’s family (well, his dad and stepmum) are very traditional and have only ever been to traditional weddings (though they got married in a courthouse and went bar-hopping afterward).
It makes conversations about the planning sort of uncomfortable, to say the least. I love-love-love my Future In-Laws, but it’s just awkward because our wedding will be anything but traditional.
1) We’re seating people at tables for the ceremony. She expects the parents to sit closest to the ceremony, which is totally fine, but our head table is going to be at the other end of the room! Still trying to figure out how to make this one work so our families aren’t a million miles away from us…
2) We’re not having ushers. With only about 100 guests and an escort board, plus the table seating, I don’t see the point of having ushers. Every wedding she’s been to has had ushers and she keeps mentioning them, so I have to gently correct her.
3) No one is “giving me away.” She thinks that someone needs to say “I present this child for marriage,” but I’m not a child and I don’t need to be presented like I’m a show-pony or something. She suggested that FH’s dad escort/give me away, but I gently declined–it’d just be weird, though I appreciate the sentiment.
4) We’re having a Justice of the Peace marry us, but not at a courthouse. True, it’s $200 to have the Justice of the Peace travel even a few blocks to our venue, but it’s worth it to us.
5) Corsages for the mothers. This is in a category all by itself. She really wants one, so we’re having them, but I think they’re frivolous and sort of a waste of money. This is the one concession we’re making, haha. I do want her to be happy and if a corsage will help her enjoy the day more, that’s fine. 🙂
6) No alcohol at the reception. Oh boy, this was sort of a big issue for a while. We compromised by setting up an after-party, so we’ll hit a casino once everything’s said and done (around 10:30 or 11 PM).
What kinds of things are you clashing with your future-in-laws about? For the married Bees, what did you clash with them about, if anything?