- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2003
So I have a question. Husband and I have been married for 2 years, together for 5. I knew when we got together, that he wasn’t crazy about having kids. I am currently 35, he is 38. We spoke about it a lot, and have both went back and forth on it. Heck, we even kinda tried a month or two. I would like children. It’s not something I dreamed about all my life, it’s just something I thought I would do.
It’s something he thinks about every day. How he feels children are a huge PITA, expensive, time killer, etc. He enjoys his life as it is, without the duty of taking care of a baby.
I, would like kids. I feel like my life is kinda not complete without having a baby. I do recognize the tremendous commitment raising a baby takes. No more sitting watching TV, no more doing what I want. When we got our dog 4 years ago, I spent the first weekend crying becuase my life changed so much.
We have a high maintenance dog and we recognize how hard it is to take care of him.
So anyway, for couples who are CFC, was there one of you who always wanted children, but sacrificed for your other half?
I really don’t want a debate here. I would really like to only hear from people who have gone through this, or are in this situation.
We are not considering divorce. If we decide to conceive it will be in 2 years. I am having Weight Loss Surgery in a year and it is not safe to become pregnant right afterwards.
That would make me 38 and him 41.
The problem is, we both are loyal to the other, and I am thinking about forgoing having children for him, and he is thinking about having a child–for me.