Are you changing your last name?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

No. I like my name. And his is already hyphenated. Not tryna sound like a walking Asian lawfirm yo ~ 

Post # 3
2591 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

beecee :  I wasn’t going to for a number of reasons: I didn’t hate my maiden name, I’m a teacher and it’d be easier to just keep my maiden name, maiden name is really common so I’m one of the masses.

However my husband’s father died five weeks before our wedding and I wanted to honor him by taking his last name. I am so happy I did now. I feel close to him every time a student calls me Mrs. new last name.

Do what works for you.

Post # 4
4660 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yes I am.  For me I want to have the same name as my husband and, more importantly, as our children.  That’s not to say it has to be the bride that changes her name!  I’d also consider creating something completely new and we’d both change.  But Fiance is attached to his name, even more so since his dad died, so I’m happy to keep it traditional.

Post # 5
1395 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I am taking his last name, and keeping my maiden name as a second middle name. I like my maiden name, and I like his name. Personally, I had no issues in keeping with tradition in this case and want to share the same last name with my future kids.

Post # 6
1629 posts
Bumble bee

Nope, on principle and practically. 

Practically, I already have a professional network built on my current name and giving that up would be silly. 

On principle, I resent that the default is for me to take his instead of a consideration of he taking mine. 

Post # 7
2518 posts
Sugar bee

We’d like to have the same last name but not necessarily his, which is hard to pronounce/spell and he’s not particularly attached to. He might take my name or we might pick a new name together.

I really like my maiden name so my thinking before I met him was always “I’ll only change it if I like the last name of the guy I marry more than I like mine.” These days I do want the cohesiveness of us having the same last name, though, especially since we plan to have kids. I think it’s nice to be a family unit with one name. But that doesn’t mean I think that’s the choice that’s right for everyone, or that the woman should have to be the one to change her name. 

Post # 8
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I took his last name and I dropped mine. I wasn’t a big fan of my last name and when we have children I really wanted everyone to have the same last name

Post # 9
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I grudgingly changed mine. Originally i asked if we could hyphenate and he wouldn’t hear of it. My husband is normally easy going with nearly everything so I was taken by surprise that this was his dealbreaker. I almost refused to see him over it because my mother’s dying family name is THAT important to me.

However, we decided to come back to it later and ended up deciding that if I took his last name and later gave it to the kids then that is all he gets. I get all the choices in children’s first and middle names. He gets 0 say. If I want to name our child Blue Rainbow I can, and he has to stand there and watch me do it. (Don’t worry I have 0 plans to do that though)

As far as I’m concerned at least this way we both get to be salty and nobody completely gets their way as far as last name goes. I’m not sure it’s a plan that will work for everyone but it works out okay for us 🙂

Post # 10
1410 posts
Bumble bee

Nope. I’ve got a couple papers under my name and I’m building connections. I really didn’t want to lose that or start from scratch. But my fiance wanted to have the same last name as me, so he’s changing his name.

Post # 11
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I am dropping my middle name(s) and moving my maiden name into my middle name slot, then taking his last night. We both have awesome and unique last names, so I want to somehow keep both 🙂

Post # 12
35 posts
  • Wedding: April 2019

I’m divorced & remarrying. My son from my 1st marriage is hyphenated my maiden  name-dad’s name. I was planning on taking my hub’s to be name, but he would rather We hyphenate so my son we both share a last name with my son. 

Post # 13
2930 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I took my husband’s last name and made my maiden name my middle name because I have a couple of professional licenses in my maiden name.  Socially I go by first name husband’s last name.  I wanted all of us to have the same last name when we have kids so that’s part of the reason why I did it.  Even though his last name is harder to pronounce and spell than my maiden name, I knew it meant a lot to him as well that I take it.

Post # 14
134 posts
Blushing bee

FH and I are getting married young, so yes i’m changing my name. I haven’t started my career yet so I don’t have connections made, but when I do I know that name will stick so I want it to be the same as FH’s and our future child. I’m also from a very traditional community and I’m not sure I know anyone who didn’t legally take their husbands last name.

Some women did keep their maiden names on their businesses though. There’s a lawyer and a doctor in town that both go by their maiden name at the office, but their married name anywhere else. 

Post # 15
925 posts
Busy bee

I changed my name the first time I got married, then reverted back to my maiden name after by divorce (but kept my married name professionally, because that was how I was known). I’m not taking FI’s name because it would be too much of a PITA and I don’t want to have yet *another* name that I’ve gone by.

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