Are you changing your last name?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 16
2884 posts
Sugar bee

If SO and I get married (which is the hope!), I will not take his last name.  I would if we were planning on having kids, but we are not.  

Post # 17
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Had I been attached to my maiden name, I would absolutely not change it. Our children would be hyphenated.

I am 90% most likely changing mine. I have a rare Swedish last name but the DNA test says I am not even 1% Swedish! My new last name will be Italian (which I’m actually a tiny bit) and I like the name better.

Post # 19
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I like my name so I didn’t change. My husband has always agreed that it was up to me but his family has been passive aggressive about it – his parents still send us cards with Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe and his uncle addressed his latest holiday card to Mr. John Doe, with a note that said “your wife’s name is too hard to spell” (lol). 

I have a different last name than my mother and it’s never been a problem, so future children were not a factor. We haven’t decided whose name they will have or if we will hyphenate. 

Post # 20
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We both kept our names. After much discussion, our kiddo has his last name and my last name as a second middle. 

Post # 21
1746 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My Fiance also said it’s up to me and he’s happy either way, but I absolutely love his name. My maiden name is ridiculously common. For example, every team I’ve been on at work(think 6-8 people teams) has had someone with the same last name and since we’re on the same team, our work is sometimes delivered to each other. Now I’ll have a Germanlast name that is short, bit I’ll still have to spell constantly. I can’t wait!

Post # 22
576 posts
Busy bee

I planned on it but then I haven’t bothered changing it. Maybe in the future I will. If I do, it will be First Maiden as new middle Husbands Last. I realized that I just don’t really care to do the paperwork lol. Husband doesn’t care either way 


If people call me Mrs his last name I don’t mind. And my instagram gram name is firstnamemaidenname so I never want to change that hahah 

Post # 23
2099 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I didn’t take my ex’s last name. It didn’t even occur to me. However, I am leaning towards taking my FI’s last name. It really surprised him when I told him I was planning on it, and he was honored. But you better believe I wouldn’t be doing it if he insisted or somehow felt entitled to it. I actually don’t really like his last name and it sounds weird and wrong with my first name. Lol. Yet, I am feeling moved to take it.

Post # 24
2467 posts
Buzzing bee

We’re middle aged and thus we have professional reputations that are already established.  We’re torn between keeping our own last names or for both of us to hypenate.  

Post # 25
1186 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

I initially felt so stubborn and wanted to keep “my identity.” But honestly, he now feels more strongly about me “becoming” his family, so cool. Whatever. Don’t like any of my last name’s relatives anyway. Lol

Post # 26
72 posts
Worker bee

Has anyone ever taken husband’s surname as a middle name and kept your maiden name as a surname?

It’s the one variant i’ve not seen someone make.

Post # 27
1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I have always known I would change my last name. I like everyone in our family having our last name. Professionally it doesn’t matter.

Post # 28
9781 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I did not. It really just felt like more of a hassle than it was worth. My husband doesn’t care either way. I might change it when we have kids.

Post # 29
2003 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018


I have no ties to my family. We do not speak, I do not wish to be apart of them any longer. 

His family has such pride for their name. 

If we have kids, I want us all to have the same name.

Post # 30
644 posts
Busy bee

I will be taking my fiances last name. I love my maiden name and will miss it, but I am traditional and want to share a name with him and our future children.

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