(Closed) Are you changing your last name? Hyphenating? Keeping?

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: Which will you do when it comes time to change your name?

    Take his last name, and ditch your maiden name

    Hyphenate your names

    Make your maiden name a middle or second middle name

    Make your middle name part of your first name and your maiden name will be the new middle name

    Keeping my name

    He's taking mine

  • Post # 3
    2249 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Taking his last name. I’m not particularly attached to mine, and it will be much easier when we have kids.

    Post # 4
    4951 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’m taking his last name. I haven’t decided if I’m dropping my (unused) first name and being Middle Maiden NewLast or dropping my maiden name and being First Middle NewLast yet. 

    Post # 5
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We’re both hyphenating.  I didn’t like the idea of losing my (unique) last name, and the spouse didn’t so much like the patriarchal implications of me doing…exactly that.  It turned out to be a happy medium for both of us.

    As for what you do when you have kids with a hyphenated name…

    ~I had a friend in college who had the hyphenated last name.  She took her husband’s name upon marriage, figuring that yet another hyphenated name would be redundant.

    ~My mom unofficially (as in, she tacks on my dad’s last name to hers, but legally is still her maiden name) hyphenated her last name.  My father kept his name, and my brother and I both have our father’s last name.

    Just throwing some options out there.  :3

    Post # 6
    11525 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009


    I dropped my given middle name, took my maiden name as my middle name, and took my DH’s last name. I go by all three names on almost everything, except in certain social situations with people who only know me through my DH. I absolutely love my new name, because it shows that I am now married, allows me to be a “Mrs.” and provides a clear connection to my identity before marriage and to my family of origin.

    Post # 7
    11266 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @vanike:  what about the option of simply keeping your last name and not taking his?  that’s what i did.

    Post # 8
    4688 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

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    @mypinkshoes:  That’s what I am doing too.

    Post # 9
    815 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m hyphenating.  I really didn’t even want to do that but I know it means a lot to him and I think it will make things easier when/if we have kids.  I’m 35 and a lot friends call me by my last name.  I’m also a singer & even have a band named after my last name so it would be a lot of change for me to let that go.  My last name is probably the one thing about myself I never went through a phase of hating, even as a teenager ;).

    Post # 10
    69 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Heather Ann Murphy to Heather Murphy Dhar!
    “Murphy” might be a weird middle name, but I just can’t give it up 🙂

    Post # 11
    3772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Taking his. Easy peasy. 

    Post # 12
    4435 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I took his- just did all the official name change documents this week. We got married over 2 months ago- I kind of procrastinated on the paperwork out of laziness:)

    Post # 13
    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wanted to move my maiden name to middle but in Canada thats considered a legal name change and I would get a new birth certificate. No thank you, I wasn’t born a ‘his last name’. But I wasnt ready to let go at first so I had 2 last names (space instead of hyphen) but after sitting with it for a week I went back and dropped my maiden name altogether and now have his last name. 

    Post # 14
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I put my last name into my middle name. So I have two middle names. But it’s hyphenated.

    Jennifer Michele-Maiden Married

    Post # 15
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I can’t vote in your poll. I kept my last name.  No hypens, no switching anything up. Easiest possible option (although that’s not why i did it 🙂 )

    Post # 16
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Why would you put “keeping your name” in the title but not put it in the poll?


    I’m keeping my name and can’t vote either.

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