Post # 1
I’ve always thought I’d take his last name (since I was a kid), and then as I got older and met him I decided I wanted to hyphenate. Now that the time has come to apply for the license I don’t know what I want to do!
Right now I’m considering:
Hyphenating my last name (but what last name will our kids have?)
Changing my first name to my first name and middle name combined, and middle name to maiden name, and change the last name
Having two middle names my original and my last name and his would be my new last name.
Just changing it to his.
I didn’t think I would have this much of a struggle, but I never realized how attached to my last name I am! What are you ladies doing?
Post # 3
Taking his last name. I’m not particularly attached to mine, and it will be much easier when we have kids.
Post # 4
I’m taking his last name. I haven’t decided if I’m dropping my (unused) first name and being Middle Maiden NewLast or dropping my maiden name and being First Middle NewLast yet.
Post # 5
We’re both hyphenating. I didn’t like the idea of losing my (unique) last name, and the spouse didn’t so much like the patriarchal implications of me doing…exactly that. It turned out to be a happy medium for both of us.
As for what you do when you have kids with a hyphenated name…
~I had a friend in college who had the hyphenated last name. She took her husband’s name upon marriage, figuring that yet another hyphenated name would be redundant.
~My mom unofficially (as in, she tacks on my dad’s last name to hers, but legally is still her maiden name) hyphenated her last name. My father kept his name, and my brother and I both have our father’s last name.
Just throwing some options out there. :3
Post # 6
I dropped my given middle name, took my maiden name as my middle name, and took my DH’s last name. I go by all three names on almost everything, except in certain social situations with people who only know me through my Darling Husband. I absolutely love my new name, because it shows that I am now married, allows me to be a “Mrs.” and provides a clear connection to my identity before marriage and to my family of origin.
Post # 7
@vanike: what about the option of simply keeping your last name and not taking his? that’s what i did.
Post # 8
@mypinkshoes: That’s what I am doing too.
Post # 9
I’m hyphenating. I really didn’t even want to do that but I know it means a lot to him and I think it will make things easier when/if we have kids. I’m 35 and a lot friends call me by my last name. I’m also a singer & even have a band named after my last name so it would be a lot of change for me to let that go. My last name is probably the one thing about myself I never went through a phase of hating, even as a teenager ;).
Post # 10
Heather Ann Murphy to Heather Murphy Dhar!
“Murphy” might be a weird middle name, but I just can’t give it up 🙂
Post # 12
I took his- just did all the official name change documents this week. We got married over 2 months ago- I kind of procrastinated on the paperwork out of laziness:)
Post # 13
I wanted to move my maiden name to middle but in Canada thats considered a legal name change and I would get a new birth certificate. No thank you, I wasn’t born a ‘his last name’. But I wasnt ready to let go at first so I had 2 last names (space instead of hyphen) but after sitting with it for a week I went back and dropped my maiden name altogether and now have his last name.
Post # 14
I put my last name into my middle name. So I have two middle names. But it’s hyphenated.
Jennifer Michele-Maiden Married
Post # 15
I can’t vote in your poll. I kept my last name. No hypens, no switching anything up. Easiest possible option (although that’s not why i did it 🙂 )
Post # 16
Why would you put “keeping your name” in the title but not put it in the poll?
I’m keeping my name and can’t vote either.