(Closed) Are you Changing your last name?

posted 9 years ago in Names
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  • Post # 17
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    947 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I really don’t want to, but after we discussed it for the 100th time, we decided I’ll legally change it, but professionally, I’ll keep my maiden name.  

     

    Post # 18
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    8351 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am changing my last name, and boy oh boy what a PITA it is. I am about two thirds of the way done. I think the guys should have to go through something similar. I didn’t even realize how many things have my old name on them. And since 9/11, the rules for changing your name have changed considerably.

    Post # 20
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    72 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Taking his but I have trouble saying his last name sometimes haha Frown should it should be entertaining when I have to introduce myself with my new last name.

    Post # 22
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    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Nope. And off the start he was none to pleased about it. But I think he’s over it now (mostly). I’ve told him that he wants the same last name as me we can choose an entirely new last name together. I love my last name, and the family that it is attached to. I see no reason for me to have to give up my name and heritage  while he changes nothing. We’ve also decided that our children will have both our last names. Half mine, half his. 🙂

    Post # 23
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    1165 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ll be changing mine.  I love the idea of having a family name and all of us having the same last name once we have kids.  It’s going to take some getting used to after having the same name for 25 years, but I’m not worried about it.

    Also, he doesn’t care either way.  He’d fully support me no matter what I wanted to do with my last name.

    Post # 24
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    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I plan to change my last name, and I am doing it because I see it was a way of showing my FH how much I love him. I know it will make him happy.

    In reality though, I am pretty sad about losing my name. I love my last name. It’s exotic (FH’s is very, very common), and I am proud of where it and my family came from. People have always recognized me by my last name.

    It has been a bit of a struggle to come to terms with emotionally. Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited about my future with FH, and I will be so proud to share his name… but there’s a part of me that feels like I’m letting go of some of my identity, and that’s hard.

    Post # 25
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    4885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I am and I can’t wait. He has a relatively common last name that can’t be made fun of/twisted, whereas I have a slightly stranger name that can be morphed into all kinds of stupid jokes.  I would hyphenate but all three of my names would have two syllables each, and rhyme.  It’s too much.

    Have a feeling my friends will continue to call me by my maiden name, however.

    Post # 27
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    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    No way.  I wanted him to take my name because it’s aesthetically better and easier to pronounce, but respect that he wants to keep his as well.  I’m actually pretty psyched to get stationery that says HisLast & MyLast – our names sound really cool together.

    Post # 29
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    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m changing my name and I can’t wait!!

    Post # 30
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    841 posts
    Busy bee

    I am uber excited about… changing my name :). 

    Post # 31
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    8351 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

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    @DCSquared: I think it will vary with your state/county. Some of the things that I have encountered so far though are:

    • Social security office asks you a bunch of questions that they didn’t used to ask. When I went in, they asked me my ss#; of course, my birthday, my mother’s maiden name, my phone number, my father’s name, and then they asked me if I had another father’s name. I am adopted, so I thought it was weird that they asked that. Luckily, I knew my biological father’s name, so I could give it to them. I asked them what would have happened if I didn’t know it, and they said they would have asked me a different question.
    • We have comcast cable, and I am required to go into one of their offices with a certified copy of our marriage certificate and ID in order to get my name changed.
    • I have to fax a certified copy of our marriage license to our public utilities company.
    • I have att&t for my cell phone, and I was required to go in to one of their stores with a certified copy of our marriage license to get it changed.
    • We have joint bank accounts, so we both had to go in with our certified copy of the marriage certificate and to sign new signature cards. I used to work in banking and all we used to require was to take a new copy of the new ID and a copy of the marriage certificate and then just have the person changing their name sign a new signature card and put it in their file.
    • I also had to do the same banking think with my business account with my son. We both had to go in with ID and my marriage license.

    Those are just a few of the things that I had to go through. I am sure there will be more, since I have about one third of my name change list left to go. It just seems like places want your first born child before they will change your name. I know the security is in place for a reason, but gee whiz, it shouldn’t be this difficult.

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