Post # 107
I’m unsure of what I’ll be doing, but I’ll definitely be getting rid of my current last name. It is Dutch, hard to pronounce, and has 11 letters in it And I also have no relationship with my father, so I don’t see the point in keeping his last name.
Problem is, Fiance has a very short, 5 letter long last name, which I think I’d find strange! Also, I’m not too sure of how my name would sound. I think it might sound a bit strange – yet again, I could get used to it after a while.
So, I think I’ll probably adopt my mothers maiden name, which I LOVE, and hyphenate it with FI’s last name. It’s easy to pronounce, and has a ring to it
And, I’ve always thought double-barrel surnames are awesome!
Post # 108
THANK YOU I feel exactly the same way!!! I am leaning toward taking his name legally and continuing to use my maiden name for work, which would actually give me more power over my own privacy in the end. Don’t tell my Fiance though, because I haven’t officially decided and I don’t want to get him all preemptively excited haha
Post # 109
@Cheeks225: I could have wrote this post my self. Same exactly pros and cons. Still weighing the options! I really do love my current last name, his is eh with my first name. He knows how I feel about it and hasn’t really pressed the issue…yet. We will see!
Post # 110
Definitely will be taking his last name and dropping mine completely. I have never been fond of mine and as there are like 5,000 of us in the family, carrying on the name is certainly not an issue lol. Plus his last name is French and just rolls off the tongue so nicely, it’s pretty sexy.
Post # 111
My SO just asked me today whether I would be changing my name, and I told him that I wouldn’t… for a while. I’m the last of my surname, and it feels weird to have to change my name for the time being. I figure if/when we have a child, I might change my name to reflect his/the kid’s surname. Until then… it’s too much of a pain in the arse to change my name (or so I’m been told, haha). Plus, I’ve already been professinally published quite a few things in my name, and am known in my career as my surname. So, until we have a kid, I’ll be keeping my born-with surname. And the SO said that he doesn’t care what I do, as long as it makes me comfortable. So, that makes me happy. 🙂
Post # 112
I would never even consider changing my name to his, not for a moment. This is partly because I already changed my name once – as soon as I was 18 I changed my original surname to take my mum’s maiden name (it seemed wrong having my father’s name when he was not part of my life and I hated the associations of it). So I have already chosen to take a name which is important to me, and I will be keeping it.
If Fiance wanted to take my name I’d be perfectly happy (my ex really wanted to take my name!) but he prefers to keep his own.
Post # 113
I’m not changing my name because I don’t want to and it’s not necessary in the modern world. However I understand people like traditions and such, so I gave my partner my blessing to change his name to mine if he so chooses.
Post # 114
I’ll be hyphenating mine for the legal papers but will use his socially. It was a struggle to compromise becuase he felt i had one foot in-one foot out of the relationship but I have to explain the culture aspect (I’m puerto Rican and women don’t change the names). Plus, I’m super proud of my name and family. 🙂
Plus, I’m an older bride (34yrs old when i marry) so it’s a long time of being known with my maiden.
He’s still fusses about it but he understands and ok wit hteh compromise. He was just concerned people will call him by my last name or misspell it.
Post # 115
@MissMfutureMrsB: I feel the same way re my father’s name. My folks divorced when I was very young, and I didn’t have much of a relationship with my father growing up. In fact, there were many times when I considered changing my surname to my mother’s maiden name. My dad actually unexpectedly passed away about two months ago. Then I got engaged about a month later, so since then I’ve been thinking long and hard about whether I want to carry his family name after I’m married.
There are some aspects I wouldn’t want to lose (it’s quite a unique Chinese surname that is Manchurian in origin, seeped in history) but ultimately, it reminds me of our distant relationship. On other hand, my fiance and I both have a strained relationship with HIS father, so I don’t know how I feel about taking on his surname either! Plus it’s an Italian name, and I have a slightly Chinese sounding first name…so it’s going to look and sound quite strange!