(Closed) Are you changing your name?

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Who changed their name?

    Bride, to the Groom's last name

    Groom, to the Bride's last name

    Didn't change name

    Hyphenated name

    Both Changed names

    Created a new last name

  • Post # 2
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    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

    I was starkly against name changing for JUST the bride, but I have a weird surname and Fiance’s is great so I’m getting on that sexist bandwagon after all! I actually can’t wait to get it done so people will spell/pronounce it right.

    Post # 3
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    212 posts
    Helper bee

    I kind of decided last minute (oops) to keep my last name. I had always envisioned changing it, but when it got close to the wedding, I just realized I REALLY didn’t want to (for MANY reasons). Hubby was and still is very upset about it….

    For anyone on the fence, DON’T DO what I did and spring it on him semi-last minute…it doesn’t end well. I didn’t realize how important it was to him, and I feel pretty bad about it STILL, but I really, REALLY like my last name, and frankly, it’s smarter for me to keep it for business purposes.

    Post # 4
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    35 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Ironwoods Beach, Maui

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    victoriad :  I am the opposite. I want to change my name because of tradition but I really do not like his weird German name when I have a nice normal sounding. And that everyone can pronounce and spell! So don’t know what I’m going to do since he is adamantly against changing his name at ALL. 

    Post # 5
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    3080 posts
    Sugar bee

    Nope. Changed nothing. Happily married almost 40 years.

    Post # 7
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    218 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m traditional so I changed my name. And I want to be known as my husband’s wife. I love and respect him. My sister, who didn’t change hers, is really judgmental about it. Like by changing my name I was somehow offending my own family or ashamed of them. (Eye roll) You can’t please everyone.

    Post # 8
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    2979 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    There is no way just I would be changing my name. OP I like your wya of doing it that you are both doing it. Thats a good compromise, which is important in marriage.

    I like my name, I don’t like his name, I dont like the sexist nature of it, I’m lazy and I’m cheap, so all signs point to keeping my own name lol.

    Post # 10
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    3057 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I’m not dropping my maiden name, I plan to have a double middle name. So it will be:

    First name, Middle name, Maiden name, Last name

    Post # 13
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    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

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    tiffles :  definitely no one should feel pressured to leave behind their own name, a lot of us had our surnames longer than we’ll have our new one! Just thinking about all the paperwork and work emails and stuff I’ll have to change is crazy. It’s gonna cost a fortune. I bought a 10-year passport right before the engagement 😐

    Post # 14
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    1197 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m not changing my name for a few reasons.

    1) His name is very similar to mine, so much so that I think I would feel I was subtly misspelling my original last name all the time. This is also why we are not hyphenating. Our names look/sound ridiculous back to back.

    2) In the event of divorce (no one wants to think about it, but statistically it is a real possibility) I think it would be incredibly depressing to change my name back.

    3) I’m the last person in my family with my last name. I want it.

    Post # 15
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    334 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m changing to my fiance’s last name and I can’t wait to do so. I want us to have the same last name and I don’t care for my current last name.

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