(Closed) are you changing your name, hyphenating or keeping?

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: what are you doing with your name afterwards?

    keeping my maiden name

    changing to his name

    we're hyphenating it

    nothing - he's taking my name!

  • Post # 17
    2683 posts
    Sugar bee

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    @shesho:  Lucky!  I have a hard-to-spell last name, and I had so hoped that I’d marry someone with a simple last name.  Nope, his is even harder to spell than mine.  I’m going to take his name and embrace the fact that I’ll always have a weird last name ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 18
    4111 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @letigre:  FI is very traditional too. It’s REALLY important to him that I take his name. thankfully, I feel the same so it wasn’t an issue. I’m sure there would have been a long “discussion” had I not wanted to take his name.

    Post # 19
    4519 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Changing, I’ve never loved my last name anyway

    Post # 20
    2490 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I’m taking his name and changing it on everything.

    Post # 21
    108 posts
    Blushing bee

    Taking his! Its easier to say/spell. Plus I love it when he calls me “future Mrs. Thompson” ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 22
    683 posts
    Busy bee

    I will change mine to his last name for simplicity reasons. When we have kids I want to all have 1 last name so there is no confusion with appointments and paperwork. (We have a dog that we send to “doggy daycamp” every week and its already confusing when I call to sign him up for his appointments even though we are both listed on there as “parents”)

    And for silly reasons My last name starts with an F and his starts with a S. I love the way S looks when monogrammed, its so pretty!

    Post # 23
    1409 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m taking his name, legally, but keeping my maiden name professionally. I used to dislike my maiden name, it’s kind of harsh sounding, and thought I’d be entirely happy to take my future husband’s last name, whatever it mighr be. And I like the idea of taking that bit of your husband onto yourself, it makes me think of Game of Thrones lol, when Tyrion puts a cloak around Sansa’s shoulders, symbolizing that she is under his protection. So I’m going to be under my fiancé’s. But now I’ve come to love my name, feminine,  pretty first name and kinda awkward last name, ir suits me perfectly, and often your name is people’s first impression of you. So that’s why I’m making this compromise. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Also, I want my FH, future children, and I to have the same singular legal last name, that seems simplest, and there’s no way my fiance can take my last name lol, it would be 4 e’s in his whole 9 letter name, and he can be very silly but he wouldn’t want such a silly little name.

    Post # 24
    9680 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @smealeys:  Changing my name to his. I feel that helps build a cohesive family unit (not to say those who don’t change their name don’t have a cohesive family unit). It’s my personal preference ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 25
    9873 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I’m changing my name to his, as much as I love my name I am very traditional

    Post # 26
    3458 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I wanted to vote, but couldn’t. I’m taking his last name and adding it to mine. Without a hyphen. One first name, one middle name and TWO last names. Very common in our part of the world.

    Post # 27
    826 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @smealeys: I changed mine, and it’s been fun! DH’s family is well known in our city, so it has been a little weird to get *that look* from people when they hear the name, but I enjoy having the same last night. However, it is a little sad that I don’t share my name with my mom anymore. ๐Ÿ™

    I am waiting for our marriage certificate (we got married in Jamaica, and it takes 16 weeks) to officially change everything. Credit cards, utillity accounts, SS card, passport, etc. Social media, email and work stuff has been changed though.

    Post # 28
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am changing to his.

    Post # 29
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I kept my maiden name. I’m in academia and already published under my maiden name, plus I feel it’s part of my identity and why should I give up part of my identity just because I got married? DH and his family have been very supportive (mine? not so much).


    Post # 30
    9632 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013


     once upon a time i wanted to keep my maiden name professionally and use his socially.

    now, i do not want any connection to my father’s name and will gladly take his.

    Post # 31
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m taking husband’s last name (when we get back from our honeymoon); however, I am making my maiden name my middle name and dropping my current middle name. As an attorney, my last name is on my law degree and bar admission certificates.  I didn’t really want that person to no longer “exist.” Also, there is no one to carry on our last name in the family since there are only girls left.

    Husband, who is a IV, and, if we have a son, will carry on the tradition, has agreed that, should we have another son, we can make his middle name a shortened version of my maiden last name to keep the name going to some extent.

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