(Closed) are you changing your name, hyphenating or keeping?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: what are you doing with your name afterwards?

    keeping my maiden name

    changing to his name

    we're hyphenating it

    nothing - he's taking my name!

  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee

    @smealeys:  I am taking his, but considering making my maiden name  and current middle name into a double middle name.  

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m changing my name to his. I want to be completely absorbed in being a wife. It’s sort of a feminine submissive gesture to my husband, and I like that.

    Post # 34
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m taking his name. I’m not that traditional in most other aspects of life, but I always just knew I would take my husband’s last name. I am dropping my middle name and using my maiden name as my middle name though, so I’ll still have it. 

    Post # 35
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @mrshunnybunches:  I am considering this.

    Post # 36
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I have been married 10 years. I was the LAST person with that last name in my family! Like for real! My mother was the only child and of course a female. So I was born before my parents got married and took her maiden name and my sister has my dad’s last name. So I hung on tight to my last name because I felt like the name was being erased from history and it’s unique. So for the first 5 years I hyphenated my last name. So five years ago I went ahead and dropped my maiden name and fully took on my husband’s last name. I proudly wear his last name!! Kiss It made it happy too! hehe

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @smealeys:  I’m keep all names. first middle maiden Married. I’ll go by Mrs First Married, but I’ll have all names legally 

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Changing, and I can’t wait 🙂

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @bleusteel:  Right???  Even at my high school and college graduations they didn’t say it right!!!!!  My last name is getting cut in half now though 😛

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I plan on dropping my middle name (I don’t really feel a connection to it), making my maiden name my new middle name, and taking my fiance’s last name. I’m in a PhD program and have some publications with my maiden name- after getting married, I’ll probably start publishing as First Maiden NewLastName, just so people can still connect me to previous publications (though if someone is just looking at citations, this isn’t ideal). I’m aiming for a teaching-heavy job after graduating….if I was going for research heavy or even 50/50, I’d probably continue to only use my maiden name professionally.

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I DON’T KNOW!!!  He wants me to change my name, it means a lot to him because he took his (step)dad’s name when he was adopted by him.  Me taking the family name says a lot about him being his dad’s son.

    But since I have been married previously and know how much of a pain it is to change your name (and then change it back), I am hesitant to legally change my name again.  I also work as an attorney and I have made a name for myself and I have a good reputation in my field.  Also, I know my dad likes the idea of me being a judge one day with the family name.

    Everyone tells me that  legallyhyphenating is a big pain in the a$$ so I don’t think that is a good option either.

    I guess I will legally change my last name to his to use socially and on my legal documents but I plan to continue using my maiden name hyphenated with his at work.

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

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    @littlegraykitten:  This.  I’m not exactly in academia, but I do plan on publishing papers, and I’d like to keep my maiden name for that.

    I do want to take his name socially though, and like to do that legally as well.  So basically legally I would have his last name and use it socially, but my office would have my maiden name.  It’ll just be figuring out the logistics at that point.

    Post # 43
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I shall be hyphenating my name as I plan on embarking on a career in academia but if we have any kids, they shall have his last name and my maiden name as their middle name.

    Post # 44
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    As much as I cried and pleaded to hyphenate my last name, I will be taking his.  ONLY L . My last name is a dying name & with the amount of girls in my family, Meads will no longer exist. I was pretty sad when he said he was budging on it. BUT he’s compromised for me. We get an outside ceremony (he wanted a church one) & I have the final say on the colors. My mom told me “Picking and choosing your battles is RULE ONE of Marriage “  duly noted!

    Post # 45
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    FH’s is much easier to spell and pronounce, so taking his!

    Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @letigre:  would you mind sharing the silly last name? could it be worse than butt or growcock? not trying to make fun of your Fiance, just really curious. 🙂 I know a girl who added her DH’s last name to hers and his is SACKRIDER!

     

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