Post # 1
Specifically for women who are established in their career or either just starting out..are you hyphenating? Its a big deal to my fiance, and i really didn’t feel the need to keep my name so I decided to change it. My family is making a big deal out of it.
Post # 3
I am changing mine even though it kinda rhymes with my first name. Think Julia Gulia…lol. It was very important to my fiance and I didn’t hyphenate because I want the same name as my future children 🙂
Post # 4
When we first started talking marriage I told Fiance I planned to keep my name. It means plenty to me and I planned on having a professional career which would be conducive to keeping it.
He said he refused to hyphenate. I didn’t expect to hyphenate, I just assumed our children would take his name.
Instead, he’s taking mine 🙂
Post # 5
I am changing my name because I want too – and in my profession (academia) women normally don’t change their names because we are already published under our maiden names but I do not care and I will be assuming his name!!!!!!
Post # 6
No, I will not be changing my name.
Post # 7
I haven’t decided yet. I guess i need to make up my mind soon.
Post # 8
I changed mine. I just got my new license today. And in case I had any doubts (which I did) I just got the best license photo taken of me EVER. So that lessens the burn a little!
Post # 9
Although I have a few female professors and mentors who are disappointed in this decision, I’m taking his. I’m just not attached to my maiden name and I think of it as my Father’s name (which I didn’t have a choice in taking). I’d much rather CHOOSE to take the name of the love of my life. (:
Post # 10
My last name has never been pronounced correctly so I am happily taking his. No hyphen just changing last names. If I was an MD, attorney, an artist or someone who thought my career would be affected by a name change I would rethink my decision I think. Never even thought to think to ask fiance if he would be upset if I didn’t take his.
Post # 11
I’m changing my name but will be keeping my maiden name for professional reasons.
Post # 12
These threads come through once in awhile and I feel like I’ve answered it differently each time!
We’re each takin gmy last name as a new middle, and his as a last.
But I think I will unofficially hyphenate them all the time, because it’s been really depressing to me to think I’d be called First HisLast. The closer it gets, the more I realize I need all three. I don’t really like his last name (and his relatives feel so disjointed and not very close in comparison to mine), and my last name is awesome. Plus I just don’t care about the tradition, and am not worried about having a different last from my kids.
Post # 13
I honestly don’t know what I’m doing yet. And it’s so hard. I really wish we could both hyphanate, but since he has 2 degrees and an ordination, it would be really difficult for him to do it- I might just hyphanate mine.
Post # 14
I changed my last name to my husband’s last name. It was <span style=”text-decoration: underline;”>very important to him. My parents had an extremely difficult time accepting this. It was ultimately a choice that my husband and I made together and my family has accepted.
Post # 15
I’m not engaged yet, but I have no plans to change my name. I’m really close to my dad and love my maiden name. A lot of people actually call me by my maiden name (Mason). I don’t mind not having the same name as my future child (only plan on having one). My boyfriend has already agreed to name the kid Mason Middle HisLastName, boy or girl. 🙂 That way I will still kind of have the same name as my child. I’m in the process of getting published and hope to be published a few more times before I get married, and I plan on being a professor, so for me it’s important that my name stay consistent. My boyfriend is pretty traditional, so he wants me to change my name, but he’s coming around to the idea because he knows how I feel about it.
Post # 16
I am changing my name. And I’m an uber independent woman. Actually, a lot of my friends were shocked when they found out I plan to change my name. The way I see it is this: we’re starting a new family. From now on, it’s me and him, and that’s what’s important, and one of the important things that mark a family is the fact that they share a last name. To me, it’s more than just tradition. If I hyphenate my name, where does it end, will my children hyphenate their names until everyone is a string of 18 last names all hyphenated together? I do connect a lot of my identity with my name, but me with a new name will be the same me. I don’t really lose anything, in fact I gain this great guy and we become a full fledge family. I think it’s a personal choice, and everyone has to make it for themselves, but for me, changing my name is fine. (It helps too, because our last names are very similar, they both start with the same letter and are th same length )