Post # 1
So I have an appointment tonight at the spa for a massage and facial – I definitely need it from all the wedding stress! Anyway, it got me thinking that I really hope whoever does my facial and massage doesn’t try to have a conversation with me the whole time. Maybe it’s just me, but I hate that. I feel like I can’t fully relax when I’m busy talking to someone. At the same time, I know they are trying to be friendly and social…but it’s just not my thing. I don’t even like to talk too much to my stylist when she does my hair. Is anyone else the same way? Any tips on how to get them to be quiet without being rude?
Post # 3
I’d say if they are chatty keep answers nice but short and too the point, thats always a good indication you don’t want to talk. I’d suggestion not going into it to outgoing, get in touch with your shy side and stay quiet and calm even during the introduction. Maybe don’t tell them you’re getting a facial and massage to get away from wedding planning stress, that opens the door for lots of questions. I’d probably go into it saying I’m here to just decompress and do a little internalizing something to indicate you’re wanting a quiet calming experience.
Post # 5
IPod! I just bring my Ipod with me and pop in my headphones, even if I’m not *actually* listening to anything!!! It keeps people from talking to me at the salon, at the manicurist, on the bus, etc! It may seem anti-social but I hate having to make polite conversation when I am trying to chill out.
Post # 6
For any kind of beauty service — particularly the soothing kind — a polite “I’m fine, thank you. I’ve been looking forward to taking this time for myself and do some quiet relaxing and de-stressing” is appropriate. I’ve found that good beauty service providers can accurately intuit my chattiness level, and that a request about maintaining quietude is considered standard. Communication is key: too rough, too hot, etc. makes for discomfort and lack of customer satisfaction, which all professionals will want to avoid. So, if you have a request, speak up, but if everything is comfy, simply “mm-hm” everything and they will leave you to your thoughts.