(Closed) are you choosing your mothers dress?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No, but I did wear her headpiece that she made.  She added a veil to it for me.

Post # 4
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Nope. I did intend to give her some guidelines on colours and styles, but she went ahead and bought something before I had a chance to. I don’t even know what it looks like or the colour. I’m almost too scared to ask LOL.

Post # 5
7276 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Nope. My mom and Future Mother-In-Law both picked their own. I’m not a fan of my mom’s style and I haven’t seen the dress yet so I don’t really know what to expect. I just know that I prefer her to wear something that she will be comfortable in over something that I like.

Post # 6
747 posts
Busy bee

@mrsedwardslpn:  Yes!  I wore my mother’s dress and had a veil made.  Her dress was originally long-sleeved, high-neck with a plunging neckline.  Overall very simple.  It had lace detaling at the collar/neckline.  

To make it fit me, we had the seamstress cut the sleeves off completely and tightened up the seams everywhere else since I was a little smaller than my mom at the time.  I looked beautiful, and the fact that it was my mom’s dress made it really special – ever since I was a little girl I knew I wanted to get married in her dress.  I’m kind of a sentimental sap sometimes ๐Ÿ™‚  

Plus…it saved my parents a TON of money; it totaled like 200 bucks at the seamstress.  So instead my mom and I splurged and had a headpiece made of crystals to wear with the veil.

Our wedding pictures are hanging on the wall, next to my parents – one dress, two special days ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
747 posts
Busy bee

oh hahaha I totally misread your post!  I thought you meant are you choosing to WEAR your mother’s dress, not choosing her dress to wear to YOUR wedding.  Ahahaha.  

Nevermind and carry on ladies!  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 8
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yes, I had a significant say in what my mother wore.  However, we found the perfect dress while shopping together, and she loved it as much as I did! 

Here is a pic of the dress (as shown on the model, not my mom. I should note that my mother was in her mid 70s at the time of my wedding, and she looked smashing in this!)

By the way, below is a picture of the stepmother-of-the-bride dress that I wore to my DSD’s wedding last year:

Post # 9
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

no my mum chose it by herself as did my Mother-In-Law. my sis went with my mum to give suggestions and frankly shes far more stylish than i am so i knew itd go well

Post # 10
2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@mrsedwardslpn:  we are going to pick it together. she isn’t going to buy it without asking my opinion, and vice versa. I think the best option is to find some that you like that has attributes you think she’ll enjoy (her favorite color, a cut she likes, etc) and email them to her to start the conversation. 

Post # 11
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We just got my mom’s dress today ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 12
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Nope.  She told me about what she planned to wear, and I thought it was lovely.  Then she changed her mind to a different dress.  That didn’t bother me.  But I was very low key about that sort of thing (my bridesmaids, for example, picked their own shoes, jewelry, and hairstyles– and it would have been fine with me if they picked their own dresses, so long as they were the same red color and fabric, and not floor length, but as it happened, they both liked the same dress, which one kept the original tea length and the other shortened to the knee).  If it looks nice, wedding appropriate, and is comfortable, go for it.

Post # 13
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No. My mom has a great sense of style and is a very elegant lady. She chose her dress herself and I absolutely loved it! 

Post # 14
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

No.  She asked my advice about the dresses she was considering, but I would have never told her what to wear.

Post # 15
1877 posts
Buzzing bee

@mrsedwardslpn:  My mom and I picked hers together, but in no way whatsoever is it a traditional, frumpy MOB gown.  I want my mom to feel hot and beautiful, as well as approriate.  I don’t want her to have to wear an old lady dress. My wedding will be at the Ritz-Carlton, Kapalua in Maui, so it’s a luxurious five star resort, but our wedding will still also have a laid back island vibe. We went with a tropical looking silk Lilly Pulitzer dress.  With tropical flowers in her hair, a lei, and fabulous blinged out sandals she will look amazing.

Post # 16
2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

my mom and i went shopping for her dress together. the only thing i requested was that it be a darker shade of blue, if possible. we have similar taste in clothes, so we didn’t really butt heads about it.

i don’t have a pic, but this kind of what it looked like, except my mom’s dress was a scoop neckline with floral detailing and had no ruching on the bodice and no sash thingie (she had the sash on her dress removed and used the material to make the straps thicker)


my wedding reception was outside during late summer and my mom does not do well in the heat. i feel like most mother of the bride dresses are made of such heavy material, so we were really glad to find something that was light and easy to wear ๐Ÿ™‚

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