Post # 1
Anyone else ever feel awkward around your FI’s extended family? I’m just wondering, since it was Easter yesterday.. I am assuming some of you spent the day with your FI’s family. I have a pretty great relationship with his immediate family, but sometimes I just really don’t feel comfortable on holidays around the extended family. Anyone else?
Post # 3
In the beginning I used to be very uncomfortable… But I’m starting to just get used to it… alcohol helps. 😉
Post # 4
for goodness sake, i’m awkward around MY extended family. that’s why you only see extended family at special occasions.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
@o0olibelulao0o: awesome- love it!
I was lucky that the first time I met the extended family was at FSIL’s wedding- so I spent a lot of time with them- I know every member of his family who’s coming to our wedding.
Post # 6
I’ve just met his mom, we spent two evenings together on my last visit down there, the only awkward part is the language barrier but we manage, I hope it will be better once I learn some spanish, I start beginner 1 in May.
Post # 7
DH’s Dad’s side is amazing. Know them all well. We facebook/email. We all have always gotten alone so well. I am just as comfortable with them as I am my own family.
DH’sMom’s side is small and we don’t see the extended family (cousins/aunts) very often. I think in 6 years I have met the 3 times. I still know their names and stuff about them, but wouldn’t say I am comfortable. I think being around his mom can be pretty awkward. She doesn’t talk to Darling Husband very often so she doesn’t know us very well. And she has done some pretty mean things to Darling Husband so I feel like I am always in momma bear mode.
Post # 8
My FI’s extended family are wonderful and welcoming… it’s a huge Irish famiy, so 3 years later I’m still meeting new cousins and always manage to have great chats.
Unfortunately my Mom’s siblings and their children & spouses (my cousins), are very judgemental and distant and it’s so awkward.
Post # 9
I’ve only been with his extended family a few times, so I still feel awkward around them. We come from different cultural backgrounds, and sometimes it feels like there is a huge difference in how his family does things than how my family does things. It is taking some getting used to, but it’s nice getting to know the people he grew up with. I do, however, find it odd when people I just met ask me about wedding plans and offer to help with anything I need.
Post # 10
Haha I agree with rosworms. I feel like I’m way more awkward around my extended family (at least on my dad’s side). They are very country & I have nothing in common with them. I almost felt sorry the first time I brought my fiance around them… but he gets along with anybody so it was all good.
Post # 11
I’m completely comfortable around them – or as much as you can be around FILs! They try really hard to make me comfortable, and I appreciate the effort they put in. We all get along really well, and I consider myself really blessed to get along so well with them!
Post # 12
@Rosworms, exactly my thoughts as I read the original post. My own extended family can be judgemental, so we avoid them. We have enough happy immediate family (except Future Mother-In-Law, but that’s in my thread above) that we’re OK only seeing the others once a year.
Post # 13
I’m totally comfortable around my immediate in-laws, and moderately comfortable around my husband’s extended family. He and I have been together for almost seven years, so I’ve been to dozens of family events. My only discomfort comes from the fact that they’re just a very outgoing, blunt group of people, and I’m…not. So they often ask questions or make comments that take me by surprise. But they all have the biggest hearts!
Post # 14
Yup, I’m totally fine around those I’ve met. In fact, we celebrate Christmas Day with a good number of them and have for several years now.
There are a couple of random members who I am uncomfortable around, but that’s strictly personality related and I would be the same way if they were my family.
Post # 15
I get along great with my SO’s immediate family, but we never see the extended family. I think I have maybe 3 times in the last 5 years? Every time I’ve seen them though they ask if I’m the new girlfriend. Nope, still me.
Post # 16
@rosworms: Yep. Same here.