Are you/did you do a first look?

posted 6 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

I was firmly against a first look…until we decided to walk down the aisle together. Now, him “seeing me for the first time” will be when we come together and walk to the ceremony hand in hand. 

So, we will meet at an intimate location nearby to the ceremony, have the photog session of just us, then walk the 50 feet to the ceremony aisle.

Kindof a first look, kindof not. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

We are doing a first look. We only have an hour between the ceremony and reception and we want to get plenty of pictures before the ceremony begins. I also want that intimate moment with him. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We chose not to do a first look, partially because I’m dramatic and liked the idea of the “big reveal” of the doors opening and my husband seeing me for the first time as I walked down the aisle, but also partially because, as a couple, we’re pretty private so we felt that a first look would be too uncomfortable and awkward, primarily due to the fact that we wouldn’t truly be alone (there were 2 photographers and 2 videographers with us or near us at pretty much all times haha). 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Cortland, NY

Despite being incredibly popular, I struggle to find the appeal of first looks. But it really depends on your style and how you want him to see you for the first time! 

I love the idea of a moment alone after the ceremony, but before the ceremony just feels weird to me.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

We did a first look (against my mother’s wishes). We both cried. It was lovely and special for the two of us to have a moment together before the ceremony.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

We are doing a first look. I am introverted and emotional. FH can be emotional when it comes to big moments, so we both want the private moment to ourselves. I also want some time to connect together as a couple on our wedding day, as once we are with everyone our attention will be diluted. I am not traditional when it comes to walking down the aisle though, having already lived together / slept together / neither of us being religious.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We did a first look, and I don’t regret it.

We had a small, intimate ceremony with about 25 pp in attendance. By doing a first look, we were able to get most of the pictures done before the ceremony and that allowed us to spend 99.9% of the cocktail hour/reception with our nearest and dearest.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

We are doing an island wedding on while on a cruise. We talked extensively about first looks and ultimately decided he does not want to see my dress until we are on the ship(super exciting) we are scheduling a photo session that will be just he and I the day before we actually get married and we will do first looks during that so it is private and special but we will have memories of it. 

Backstory we have been dating 8.5 years, living together most of that. We will be doing our ceremony very privately(his mom and my best friend are our witnesses) then doing a big blowout in 2020 at our 1 year married anniversary which will be our 10 year couple anniversary also

Post # 10
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Helper bee

NK2012 :  Both fiance and I are strongly against a “first look.” We think itll be more special if he first sees me as I’m walking down the aisle. If you’re torn then you’re likely not really wanting a first look but you’re in awe over this new trend. We’re both introverts too and I dont feel like not having a first look will take away any “moment.” 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

We’re not doing the first look. I want my fiance’s first look to be of me walking down the aisle. I don’t want him to see me until the moment when we get married I know he’ll be so excited and I dont want to lose part of that moment to the first look.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We did one and absolutely no regrets. walking down the aisle was still very special to both of us, but logistically it made our day soooo much easier to do a first look. I also loved being able to have about 30-45 min of time with just my husband and I. It got us away from the craziness of the day and we were able to just focus on each other. We also got some of my favorite pics then so that was a huge plus!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We did a first look. Some of my favorite pictures and moments here at the first look. 

I didn’t want the first moment he saw me to be so far away. I wanted that up close moment. Walking down the aisle was still just as sweet. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Canada

We did a first look and I’m SO glad we did.  It gave us time to relax together and have a bit of time just focusing on each other.  I will never forget his face when he turned around and saw me!

Walking down the aisle, I was planning to just look ahead to my Fiance since I was so nervous about all the attention.  Turns out I got distracted by seeing friends and family at the sides of the aisle.  I don’t remember even looking at Fiance until I was at the end.  So, had we not done the first look, I likely would have never seen his reaction to me.  Also, the rest of the day was SO INSANE and busy, the only time we had just us was during the first look.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Baltimore, MD

I’m doing a first look with my dad before he walks me down the aisle. At the suggestion of our photographer, my fiance and I are doing a first touch.

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