Are you/did you do a first look?

posted 11 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

We are doing a first look! We want to be able to spend as much time as possible with our guests and also take all the formal photos we want without feeling rushed. We also think it will be nice to eat some of our cocktail hour food after we take a few photos after the ceremony! 😉

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

We did a first look. It didn’t take away from me walking down the aisle at all. In fact, I completely forgot we had already seen each other before the ceremony until I got our wedding photos back.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I wanted to do a first look for logistical reasons but FH was against the idea so we moved the ceremony to an hour earlier and extended our cocktail hour for our guests so we can get all the shots the photographer wants.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - San Diego, CA

We’re doing a first look mainly for selfish reasons.  We’re doing ALL our bridal/family photos before the ceremony since our cocktail hour will feature a special presentation that I don’t want our family and bridesmaids/groomsmen to miss.  I also don’t want to miss it. lol.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

Did not do a first look.  I’m always running late and didn’t want to compress my getting ready timeline with photographs.  Sure enough, I was running behind on the day of due to two unforseen events.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We didn’t do a first look (just a first touch) since I wanted that traditional “down the aisle” moment- it felt more organic to me whereas I felt like (to me) a first look might have been too much pressure on the photography since the photographer would have been RIGHT there snapping pics, so I’d be worried about whether our faces were authentic or just thinking too much about the camera (if that makes sense??). 

That being said- so many more brides/grooms feel like it’s more pressure to have the first time seeing each other be at the ceremony with everyone looking at them so it really depends on your preference! One thing I do see most of on these boards regarding first look or no first look is that everyone seems to have been happy with their choice in hindsight- so it’s likely whatever you pick will have been the perfect choice for you!

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Nah. I got ready in the bedroom with the stylist, he got ready in the bathroom. He brought us tea and checked in to see I was doing ok. We saw each other all the time on the morning of the wedding and I wouldn’t change it for the world. 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We did and I’m SO glad. If we hadn’t, we’d have had very little daylight. During that time we would have had to fit in bridal party photos, family portraits, and our own photos. So it was pretty much impossible. Our photographer was our splurge area, and it was very important to me. So it was very nice getting to take our time and get lots of photos of the 2 of us. We also wanted that first time seeing one another to be private, not in front of everyone. I wanted my husband’s genuine reaction and I wanted it all to myself, not sorry! He is very self-conscious and I knew he’d be uncomfortable knowing people were watching him while I was coming down the aisle. It worked out perfectly for us. 

I also think a lot of people don’t realize that you get zero time just the 2 of you on your wedding day if you don’t do a first look. It was important to us to have that 1 on 1, calm time before our ceremony without people clamoring for our attention. Highly recommend 🙂 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We did, it was great! Also a fun “just us”

moment in an otherwise jam packed weekend. Also the photos from that are spectacular. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

We did not. We were both a little old-school like that and didn’t want to see each other until the moment when I walked down the aisle. He teared up (so, so incredibly rare for him) and I doubt that would have happened with a “first look.”

Ultimately, it is convenient to take pictures before the ceremony. In the past, it was just taking picture before the ceremony and no one really liked the idea of that, although many did it anyway for the sake of time and convenience. Then they rebranded it as a “special moment” and called it a “first look”, and suddenly it became a great thing to do. It’s ALL in the branding.

That doesn’t mean that it isn’t special for some people and that many don’t genuinely want it, but it did start for the sake of convenience. Dh and I were willing to forego convenience for what was a more special moment for us (walking down the aisle).

Post # 26
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Busy bee

We didn’t do a first look. We spent most of our wedding day together prior to the ceremony itself – I ducked out for 20 minutes to put my dress and accessories on. We had a photojournalist-style photographer, so we didn’t do any posed pics and were able to spend the entire reception with guests. 

I didn’t want a first look because I wanted my sons to see the look on their (at that moment) soon-to-be stepdad’s face as my sons escorted me down the aisle – it was a great moment. 

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I would like to do a first look, but we haven’t talked about it yet. The way the church is laid out, the aisle I’ll be walking down will be mostly invisible from the altar, and I’m not super tall, so if we don’t do a first look, I likely won’t get to see his reaction because I’ll be seeing family instead! And we’ll have his pastor and my priest, along with quite a few people I haven’t seen in years, and I’m just going to be a wreck and I’d like to have a moment where I see him and he sees me and we don’t have everyone watching us see each other.

We’ll have to talk about it, though. If he’s strongly opposed, I’m not going to push it. But I think it would be nice to actually get to see him before I’m right up on the altar!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

We didn’t do a first look. It was very important to us to have that “coming down the aisle” moment. I wanted to the first time he saw me in my dress to be at the ceremony.

However, we spent a lot of the morning together, all the way up until it was time for me to get dressed, so we had plenty of time to spend with each other alone before the wedding and specifically planned it that way.

I don’t regret skipping a first look. I can’t know if his reaction at a first look photoshoot would have been the same as when he saw me from the altar, but it felt more genuine to us to have that aisle moment. 

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

We aren’t getting married until 2020, but have pretty much decided on doing a first look. The biggest reason we started considering one is because we don’t want a gap between our ceremony and reception, and we want to be there with all our loved ones the whole way through, so doing a frist look allows us to get all our pictures done before the wedding. Aside from that, we will likely both be super emotional and nervous, and would rather have that moment without 100+ people watching us! And I think it will be so nice to have some time for ourselves before what I’m sure will be a crazy day filled with other people. 

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We considered it but didn’t. But we also got married at 11am and would have been tight for time.

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