(Closed) Are You Doing a Bouquet Toss? Why/Why Not?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Nope.  I have always thought it was mortifying as a single woman to be dragged up for this.  As a favor to single womwn everywhere, we are skipping this and the garter toss!

Post # 62
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re skipping it because we feel it’s in appropriate for our crowd at the reception. Not many singles and whole families will be there. 

There is also the Catholic tradition of the bride giving/leaving her bouquet at the foot of a statue of the Virgin Mary. I am going to be doing a variation of that by donating it at the chapel I’ve gone to all my life but can’t get married at because it is on a monastery. So I want to save it. 

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We’re skipping it. I’ve never found it to be the most pleasant of things – a group of somewhat forced, awkward women jumping for flowers and the chance to ‘be the next bride’? Hoooow about no, lol. I detested being forced to go up and pretend to try to grab a bouquet. Plus, that’s one less bouquet I have to buy. 

We’re also not doing the garter toss, for similar reasons. 

Post # 64
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: Dreams Resort and Spa, Puerto Aventuras, Mexico

We are not doing it because it is a very small reception with very few single ladies. Also not doing the garter toss, because my fiance and his Brazilian family find it lewd and inappropriate. As an alternative, we considered doing a “bouquet dance”. We will have all of the married couples come onto the dance floor. The DJ will call out for couples to leave if they’ve been married less than 5 years, 10 years, etc. until the longest married couple is left. We will then present them with the bouquet, as a thank you for their example.

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We are doing it, but it will be for ALL women (not just singles).  We have made that very clear for the MC/DJ to announce.  

Post # 66
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m not going to toss my bouquet, because personally I HATE having to catch the bouquet at other weddings.  It is humilating, and one of the things I’m looking forward to not having to do anymore once I’m married.   That being said- why would I do that to my guest?  I think more of them then desperate girls wanted to get married so bad they will do anything to catch the dumb bouquet.  We aren’t doing the garter either.  If my fiance really wants to go up my skirt, he can do so after the wedding in the privacy of our hotel suite, and not in front of ALL our family and friends.  

I do think some variations are fun- like giving your bouquet to the couple that has been married the longest, or making a lucky lottery ticket bouquet and throwing it out for ALL the guests to try to catch.  We aren’t doing anything like that mostly because its more to plan and I’d rather not interupt the dancing, but I would be more for that as a guest.  

Post # 67
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I always hide from this at other weddings – so embaressing! I’ll be skipping it.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

1Yan4Sarah:  That alternative sounds like a much better idea!

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

We are not doing one. I have very few single ladies at our wedding. Out of 60 expected guests I think I have 3 women (not engaged or married) and 3 little girls. My bouquet will have heirloom brooches in it from my grandmother, and I really dont want to buy a toss bouquet. I also really hate the garter toss that I find disgusting and degrading.

Post # 70
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I did and it was a blast!   I was so excited to throw my bouquet I completely threw it over the 20+ crowed of girls, so I got to toss it again.  You don’t have to throw your actually bouquet.  I had my florest make me a toss bouquet.

Post # 71
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We didn’t do that or the garter toss. We didn’t want it regardless, but we really didn’t have many single ladies anyways there. Would’ve been like 5 girls standing there awkward. 

I caught the bouquet at my cousin’s wedding acouple years ago (actually 2 months before he proposed) and my dress was already short and I am tall with very long legs, so it was very awkward and a long process (in front of my DAD no less) and the girlfriend of the guy who caught the garter was FUMING mad and made a scene in front of our whole family. It was just terrible. 

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Nope. It’s too mean to your single friends. If you want to toss it for fun without humiliating anyone, I heard of one couple who said that anyone, single or married, male or female, can try to catch the bouquet, and the prize was a $20 Amazon gift card.

Post # 73
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Worker bee

I tried catching the bouquet at one wedding, but we were all 19-21, so most of us were really single and it was the first time any of us had experienced that. When I went to a wedding with my SO for one of his coworkers, I did not participate. The wedding was on our anniversary and I didn’t know the couple, so I opted not to because it was awkward.

My best friend really wants to but her fiance doesn’t want to do a garter toss. He doesn’t want people watching him crawl under her dress but she is still planning on her flower toss because she’s 23 and most of them haven’t been really experienced the embarassment of the single girl round up to catch the bouquet.

I like the idea of both the bride and groom throwing something and then whoever catches it gets a prize and having it open to everyone.

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