(Closed) Are you doing a first glance?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Are you doing a first glance?
    Yes. : (49 votes)
    45 %
    No. The first time he will see me is when I walk down the aisle. : (48 votes)
    44 %
    Undecided. : (10 votes)
    9 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    we didnt. i think that trend is mostly an american thing, being in the uk we didnt bother. plus, his face when he saw me walk down the aisle was precious. i dont understand the trend, maybe someone can explain why this is done?

     

     

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    3376 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wanted to because we’re having a pretty casual wedding with a short reception and I wanted to be able to spend plenty of time with our guests, but he was very adament about sticking to tradition and making sure that the first time that he saw me is when I’m walking down the aisle towards him. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Yep, it will calm me down. And we need to get most of our pics done beforehand.

    Post # 6
    Member
    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We will because I cry at the drop of a hat and want to be as little of a mess as possible! I think it will help me be calm and I think it will be a nice time for just the two of us, no family around. And some great pictures!

    Post # 7
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    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Nope! My FI is very adamant about seeing me only when we’re going to walk down the aisle. We’re very traditional.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1691 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I won’t be doing one, I feel like the moment I am most excited about is seeing his face when I walk in. I NEED that moment after all this planning lol

    Post # 9
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    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I will be doing one because we are having a mountaintop ceremony so he’ll see me in the helicopter anyways. 

    I think they’re great because it’s a way to capture the emotions of the moment without the distractions of other people. The photographer can focus and get amazing pictures. I’ve seen some of the most beautiful reaction shots from ‘first looks’.

     

    Post # 10
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    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I want him to be in aww when he sees me walking down the aisle, and I want to feel that reaction with him as my dad walks me down, I want to experience that feeling.

    Its a once in a life time feeling that you’ll never get back, you kept your wedding dress a secret from him for so long, let the surprise just pop.

    I know I am going to go crazy as I am not very good from keeping anything from him. When I was wedding dress shopping I was so antsy to show him all the pictures but held back, and told him srry but theres just one thing i have to keep from you until our day.

    We are so emotionally intact with one anothers feelings that I would regret not sharing that moment of aww when I come walking down the aisle.

    Post # 11
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    4693 posts
    Honey bee

    I’m doing it. From all the pictures I’ve seen, the groom still gets “that look” when you walk down the aisle regardless. It’ll calm me down and it’ll give us some time alone to really let the moment sink in. 

    I thought he was going to be against it, but I asked and he said we could do them. He’s not as excited about it as I am, but he agreed to it so I’m happy. 

    Post # 12
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    43 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are only because we’re having our ceremony start an hour before the reception (all-in-one venue), so 95% of the pictures will be done before the ceremony.. Well, also due to the fact that if we didn’t, I’d probably be ugly crying during the entire ceremony.

    Post # 13
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    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My fiance and I REALLY wanted to do the whole “first look” thing because it makes for such cool photos, but then when we truly started talking though the logistics, we decided that we’re going to wait until we go down the aisle.  I think there’s something so magical about that moment and I don’t want it to lose its significance.

    When you do a first look, you get to spend about an hour or so hanging out with your fiance, your bridesmaids, and your groomsmen taking photos, laughing, having a good time, etc.  Then what happens when it’s time for the wedding?  “Peace out, future husband, see you at the altar”.  Eh, I’m just not feelin’ that.  I want something very sacred and traditional.

    Have you considered having “first touch”? You can talk, hold hands, pray, whatever around a corner or a door frame, but not see ach other.

    Post # 14
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    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We’re doing one, for a couple reasons…

    • FI REALLY liked the idea as soon as I suggested it to him; he really believes he will feel more settled and in the moment if we’ve connected before the ceremony. I feel this way, too.
    • I love first look photos, and logistically I’d like to have most of the bridal party and formal family photos done before the reception starts. Our photographer is GREAT at action shots and telling the story of the day, and I want him to be able to capture cocktail hour.

    Post # 15
    Hostess
    7564 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We will. I think it’s best to do pictures before the ceremony, so we can spend time with our guests during the wedding. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    With Jewish weddings you see each other beforehand anyway to do the Ketubah and Bedeken, so we’re definitely doing a first look before then.

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