Post # 1
I was thinking about this today I don’t know how comfortable I am with my Fiance reaching under my skirt in front of all those people to get it. How weird would it be to wear a garter even if we don’t do a garter toss?
Post # 3
I’m more of a fun-playful kind of person, so the garter toss has never given me anxiety. However, I can see how more of a shy person wouldn’t feel comfortable with their FI’s hands up their skirt trying to find the garter.
Go with what you are comfortable with. If you really want someone’s opinion, I would ask your Fiance how he feels about it. You never know, it may not matter to him if you do the garter toss or not. However, he might be dead-set on doing it. I would definitely talk to him.
Post # 4
My Fiance told me point blank, “I’m not doing the garter toss…I think it’s stupid.” LOL. And i’ve decided not to wear one because we’re doing an after party kind of thing so I’ll be changing out of my dress anyway. I might get to keep as a keepsake, but that’s it…so if you want to wear one, I say go ahead….you could get one with blue in it and call it your “something blue.”
Post # 5
I’m not doing a garter or a bouquet toss. We don’t have enough single friends/family, and it was something I always, always hated at other people’s weddings.
Post # 6
@IlsaLund…RIGHT ON!!! I always hated being shoved up there. My mom was like, “You have to toss a bouquet.” I told her I’d get her one and she could do it lol.
Post # 7
My Darling Husband and I did not do a garter toss or a bouquet toss. We weren’t into all the reception traditions. We’ve both always hated having to “go up for the tosses” in the past, so we refused to do it to our guests. And our guests seemed to really like that.
If you want the garter for pictures, wear it for sure. If not, and you still want to wear it, go for it. If you don’t care to wear it, there is no need for it.
Post # 8
If you want to do the garter toss pull it around your knee or around your calf before he takes it off.
Post # 9
We did it, mostly because my Darling Husband really wanted to do it. I agree with anwenning, talk to your Fiance. I may have nixed it had I not known how much he had wanted to do it.
Post # 10
We are skipping both the garter toss and bouquet toss. It was a mutual decision on both accounts. My grandmother bought me a garter (!!!) shortly after we got engaged so I’ll probably do the obligatory photo of putting on the garter during the “getting ready” shots, but I’ll take it off immediately after. I just don’t want her to think it went to waste (although I did tell her we won’t be doing the actual toss).
Post # 11
If you’re not comfortable with it, don’t do it. I don’t think I am, but on the same note, I’m having a custom garter made on Etsy for me. I’ll actually have it made in the next couple of weeks, so I can use it for some boudoir shots then for our wedding.
Post # 12
We are doing both but have decided not to do the part where the guy who catches it puts on the girl. With our luck two first cousins will catch them and then it will be really wrong.
Post # 13
I’m not comfortable with the garter toss either. Instead, we’re putting the toss garter around a football under one of the covered wedding chairs. When he gets down to “go under my dress”, he’ll quickly reach under and grab the football and that’s how we’ll do the garter toss. I think it’ll be fun 🙂
Post # 14
I’m not doing a garter toss but I don’t see why you couldn’t wear one even if you didn’t toss it. Nobody is going to see and tell you off 😛 I just can’t seem to connect garter toss and classy wedding. Luckily it’s not common here 🙂
Post # 15
We are skipping both the garter toss and the bouquet toss. Most of our friends are either married or have been with their SOs a long time. I also didn’t like being pulled out to those so I am not going to do that to our few friends that are single.
Post # 16
@karatechick27 HaHa, thats exactly what I heard from my little Punkin! That was the FIRST thing he said when I started planning. I am completely ok with it though, most of our friends are married and we are having a small intimate wedding.