(Closed) Are you doing a garter toss?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Are you doing a garter toss?




  • Post # 17
    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

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    @TGold:  I love that idea! It’s a good way to get people to participate, too.


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    @Lily_of_the_valley:  I was kind of on the fence about it until I found my garter at a bridal show. My Future Mother-In-Law and I agreed that it’s perfect (kind of a gag-gift type thing for my FI) and so we’ll be doing one.

    Post # 18
    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    No…I can’t think of anything less “me” than a garter toss. Just not my style. 

    Post # 19
    1486 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No, we did not have one.   DH and I both thought that the whole garter thing was awkward times a million. 


    We did do a bouquet toss which was fun.  

    Post # 20
    95 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    not doing one

    Post # 21
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m doing both! I went to a friend’s wedding a couple weeks ago where the DJ told the groom he had to take off the garter without using his hands, then my FH ended up catching the garter and putting it on a girl neither of us knew! I thought it was hilarious, so I guess it all depends on the personalities of your guests.

    Post # 22
    243 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve noticed these are becoming less and less popular and this poll makes me sad. The tosses and the throwing of the rice/confetti/petals etc are my two favorite traditions! The last wedding I went to didn’t have the bouquet and garter toss and I missed them. I guess I’m in the minority though. 🙁

    Post # 23
    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Out of four weddings I’ve attended in the last three years, I’ve only seen it done once. And yes, he did take it off with his teeth.

    It’s not our thing and we won’t be doing a bouquet toss either.

    Post # 24
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I made a really pretty garter, but we’re only having 18 people at our wedding, so I think there’d be one, maybe two guys who are single.  Not really worth it, but still I made the damned garter so I don’t want it to go to waste!

    Post # 25
    32 posts
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Yep we’re doing one, but we’re not making the bouquet catcher and garter catcher dance! I found an idea from Pinterest inviting ALL the male guests to do it and the winner receives a bottle of single malt scotch. Not planning on doing anything for the ladies, but there’s usually no shortage of them and that’s more of a war zone than the guys!!

    Post # 26
    9947 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Garter Tosses have come a long way from how they were traditionally done (which was a lot more tasteful, and not embarassing for the woman… as she was fully in control)

    There was no Groom crawling up under the skirts of the Bride…

    The Bride put her leg up on a chair, hiked up her dress… to whatever level SHE CHOSE to have the garter at (anywhere from ankle to thigh) and a bit of fun music was played (maybe the Stripper Dance)

    As the Bride teasingly lifted the hemline of her dress… to the point where she had placed the iconic Garter

    And then the Groom took the Garter off with his hands (no teeth, no blindfold… no awkwardness)

    After that the choice to toss was his… and often times he didn’t toss it for the “single men” but kept it for himself

    (In the 1950s, 60s, and 70s, it was very common for the Groom to hang the Garter from the rear view mirror in his car)

    IMO an all very tasteful custom / tradition … and miles from where we are today.

    Personally, I can fully understand Brides who don’t want to participate in the over-sexualized version that has evolved today !!


    Post # 27
    919 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    No, I would feel awkward about it, and honestly it’s just another detail to worry about that I really don’t care about. 

    Post # 28
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We have very few single friends (maybe 2)  and I have no single female friends so it just makes sense not too 🙂

    But even if we did..probably not. I personally don’t like too many interruptions…you already have cake cutting, speeches, late night dessert…I just wanna dance…lol!

    Post # 29
    217 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We did a garter toss, but DH didn’t remove it from my leg. I was not comfortable with that. We just had the garter ready and he threw it. Also, for the bouquet and the garter tosses, both married and single people were invited to participate and we had quite a few people join in. Also, I didn’t toss my real bouquet or garter – I tied together a few spare flowers and DH tossed a garter I’d bought at the dollar store.

    Garter and bouquet tosses are still extremely common at the weddings I’ve attended, though I’ve never seen the man put the garter on the woman’s leg or anything like that. They don’t usually interact at all. 

    Post # 30
    731 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @Lily_of_the_valley:  I would vote other but you don’t have one…. We are actually tossing beads to all of the singles not just guys or girl.

    Post # 31
    1648 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    I did and everyone actually loved it.  Probably because they were hammered. We also did the bouquet toss and the whole whoever caught the garter puts it on whoever caught the bouquet. It was super hilarious.  I think it depends on your crowd.  We’re a bunch of rowdy raunchy partiers so it worked for us.


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