(Closed) Are you doing anything for your MIL/FMIL for Mother’s Day?

posted 12 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: are you sending you FMIL/MIL a gift, card, or flowers for Mother's Day?

    no, I didn't even think of it!

    no, I don't feel like I should/want to send her anything

    yes, from my fiance/husband and I.

    yes, from just me! I get along with my MIL great!

    yes, because I'd like to get to know her or get closer to her

    other, and I'll explain in the comments

  • Post # 3
    14181 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I was going to…but then I found out my Fiance and his sister are giving her a nice cocktail ring for mothers’ day…and I couldn’t find a good enough Future Mother-In-Law card. It’s awkward. HOpefully next year my Fiance and I will just go in on something. I can’t afford to send her a bunch of flowers from just me, plus my Fiance is already getting her something.

    And she JUST threw me a shower, so I did send a box of chocolates. I don’t want to overdo it. Next year maybe it wont be so weird once she’s actually my Mother-In-Law. 

    Post # 3
    898 posts
    Busy bee

    I’ll be getting her a card, same as my own mom – since my Fiance won’t even bother. We get along fine, but there’s really no huge importance to many holidays for her.

    Plus…I’ll be working. Can’t do much else for them.

    Post # 4
    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    My FMIL’s birthday was just last week so we sent her a basket of goodies. For Mother’s day, I believe my Fiance will be ordering flowers for her, from us. She loves flowers and is very appreciative of what she receives so I know they will make her happy!

    By The Way — This really isn’t for easing the transition. I have been quite close to her since I met her years ago.

    Post # 5
    36 posts
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We each handle gifts/events for our own family, so he’ll be getting his mom something and spending the day with her while I’ll be doing the same for my mom.

    Post # 6
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I was just debating this.  I think my Future Mother-In-Law would think it was weird if I sent her something from just me (we get along great, but she is not terribly sentimental).  I think I have been tasked with sending her flowers from Fiance though, lol.

    We do joint gifts to family members already, but stil….

    Next year, I will jump on the mother’s day bandwagon for her!

    Post # 7
    1105 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My Fiance and I bought cards for both of our moms, that say from both of us.  We are both close to each other’s moms, so it wasn’t weird to think about doing it that way.  We also are having a BBQ at my FBIL’s for FI’s mom and my mom.  We all get along really well, which is a blessing!!

    Post # 8
    676 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    We’re going out to lunch with FI’s whole family….and getting her a card and a book from the both of us. Then we’re going to dinner with my whole family and getting my mom something from the both of us. I’m not close to my Future Mother-In-Law but I’m trying my best!

    Post # 9
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We sent her flowers signed:

    We love you mom!
    Hubby, me, Brother-In-Law (he wanted to throw in b/c he had no idea what to get her)


    Post # 10
    1266 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I hate stuff like this…honestly I do…I will tell you why

    With my family we have never been big on giving my parents gifts, a gift on Christmas, and maybe a little something on their birthdays (always a card though) is what is expected, nothing for valentines, nothing for mothers/fathers day etc.

    However with my Fiances family they buy gifts for EVERY occasion! and as much as thats not a big issue its the fact that both his parents have everything and more! they’re the hardest people to buy for since they dont end up using or really appreciating anything you buy them (I think at this point my Fiances dad has every iPod known to man x 2 because we all just keep buying him iPods…or iPod gadgets…) his mom buys herself stuff all the time and when we dont know what to buy we either buy her clothes or perfume (which she returns the clothes no matter how much she likes them because there is a standard on how much she money spends on her clothes, and she will never wear the perfume – which is also kind of hint because we HATE the only perfume she wears)

    Its so frustrating, my fiance and I almost had a fight last night before bed about it. he was like what are we getting out moms I was like "IM GETTING MY MOM A CARD AS PER USUAL AND WHO THE F$%# KNOWS ABOUT YOUR MOM SHE DOESNT NEED ANYTHING!!!" (may I also add I am PMSing and rediculously emotional at this point in planning…ha ha)

    so if anyone knows of what to get the mother who has everything I would greatly appreciate it (PS, flowers wont cut it, as she doesnt really like them either)

    Sigh, happy mothers day to all the other amazing apperciative mothers out there!

    Post # 11
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Chantellamus: Maybe a gift certificate for a mani/pedi?  Massage?  I’m sure she does stuff like that for herself, but a free one wouldn’t hurt her.

    Post # 13
    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Umm… somewhere in-between. Right now she’s still Future Mother-In-Law, and I don’t usually do much for my own mom, so Fiance and I were out shopping together and we each bought our moms separate cards. I’ve put mine in the mail and am encouraging Fiance to get his momma’s in the mail today so she’ll get it by Saturday!

    Post # 14
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My Future Mother-In-Law and I are pretty close so I think I’m going to take her out to lunch on Saturday and probably get her a card filled with some scratch-off lottery tickets. She always sends us (me, Fiance, FSIL) cards for everything (Vday, Halloween, birthdays, etc) with lottery tickets included. I thought she might get a kick out of it. Her only daughter, my Future Sister-In-Law, just moved 6 hours away so I think she might be feeling a little sad this mother’s day.

    Post # 15
    122 posts
    Blushing bee

    We just send flowers to his mom and grandmother from the both of us.  Nice and easy 🙂

    Post # 16
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My Future Mother-In-Law and I are not that close since there is a major language barrier between us, but I will probably get her a pretty bouquet of flowers.  I brought her some on Easter and she really like them.

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