(Closed) Are you doing assigned seating?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are you making a seating plan?
    Yes, everyone has a table to sit at : (79 votes)
    59 %
    Yes, everyone has a table and an exact seat to sit at : (27 votes)
    20 %
    Kind of. I'm telling friends to sit there, family to sit there. : (6 votes)
    4 %
    Nope. Free for all! It'll sort itself out. : (22 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    9675 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    We will be doing assigned seating, table and exact seat. We have a few dietary requirements to accommodate so it is important to have assigned seating so the special meals can go to the right people!

    Post # 4
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m terribly close to throwing my seating chart out the window. I didn’t want to do it, but my mom also insisted on it. I just want everyone to find a seat and enjoy, but I don’t know if I can or not.

    Post # 5
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We did open seating. My husband was against it for awhile but I talked him into letting people sit where they want. They are all adults and can figure it out for themselves. I didn’t want to deal with a seating chart and I didn’t think it was my job to tell people where to sit. Everything worked out perfectly!

    Post # 6
    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We are not having assigned seating.  It’s an outdoor, tented reception and I wanted to keep things casual.  We will have one table for us, parents, my kids, and the photographer.  Everyone else can sit where they want.

    Post # 7
    257 posts
    Helper bee

    If you do not have assigned seating, you need to have lots of extra seats. What if a couple walks in together and there are only 2 seats left at opposite ends of the room? Depending on your number of guests (I’d say 30 or more), you should definitely assign tables.

    Post # 8
    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @MrsFutureG:  We had about 90 guests and didn’t do assigned seating and it worked out just fine – everyone sat where and with who they wanted to sit.

    I tried doing assigned seating and it was a nightmare.  Trying to fit all of a group of friends together when there wasn’t enough seats and who do you leave out and put somewhere else?  Putting strangers next to each other? 


    I highly recommend not doing assigned if you don’t have too.

    Post # 9
    2685 posts
    Sugar bee

    I wanted to do a free-for-all, but we settled on doing assigned tables.  We were worried about tables having empty seats and we really can’t afford that unused space in our backyard reception.  At least with assigned tables, all seats are accounted for and the guests can figure out where they’d like to sit.  Assigned seats are useful for a plated meal so the caterer knows where to send out the entrees, but if you’re doing buffet or family style you can easily skip the assigned seats and do assigned tables.

    Post # 10
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are having assigned seats. I’ve heard too many horror stories of chaos breaking out when there weren’t assigned tables.

    Even more than just assigning tables, our exact seats will be assigned because we are having a seated, formal dinner and each person is choosing between two entrees. The butlers have to have some way of knowing who gets what

    Post # 11
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We assigned tables but not exact seats. It can be reallyyyyy awkward for the people who are some of the last to sit down if you only have the exact number of chairs set down. Say you have a table of 8 seats and a group of four, then a group of three, sit down at it. Well, now there’s only one seat left. So looks like a couple is going to end up getting split up towards the end and possibly sitting at a table full of people they don’t know at all. I think unassigned seating only works if you have extra seats – which means more tables, linens, centerpieces, etc.

    Post # 13
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    I assigned all of my guests to specific tables. A few couples cancelled last minute, so at the reception some of my guests moved around before dinner. It didn’t really matter to me since we were doing a buffet, but it was nice to know that everyone was seated at a table where they at least knew someone else or would have something in common.

    Post # 14
    4061 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Jacqui90:  us too. Venue requires it so they know who gets what meal (guests had a choice for what they wnated to eat for each course)

    Post # 15
    10603 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I think assigned tables is the better way to go if you’re not having extra seats.  There are always the few who end up getting split up if you do it that way.

    We did assigned seats, but only because I wanted placecards as well just so people could double check they were at the right table.  I also wanted some people next to people at a different table.  I think there were a few groups who shuffled it around a bit, which was fine by me!

    Post # 16
    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would assign seats for a plated meal where they have to choose their meals ahead of time but for buffet I wouldnt. 

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