(Closed) Are you doing or did the wedding mass or just the ceremony?

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We are just doing the ceremony, which is basically like a mass without the eucharist.  So 15 minutes less is about right.

Post # 4
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We chose to do a full mass. Both of our families are religious and I didn’t really fight them because I wanted a little more time at the church. Getting all dressed and putting all the time planning, I wanted to be able to enjoy our ceremony.

Our full mass was 45 mins. I have been to a couple weddings that were just ceremonies and they were shorter than 20 mins, but it may just depend on the church.

Post # 5
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We did a full mass. It was about 45 minutes. Neither of our families are SUPER religious. I have to say, it was the most amazing part of the wedding day. It was beautiful and special. I loved having all the music and the priest did a wonderful job.

Post # 6
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re just doing the “service w/o Mass” as Fiance is not Catholic, my dad’s now an Episcopalian, and many of our guests aren’t religious. You do still get all the music (except for Communion song obviously) that you would with a full Mass, so it’s not like it will be musicless.

The folks at my church pointed out that if one half of the guests will be going up for Communion and the other won’t, it’s probably best to not have communion. But it usually depends on the church.

Post # 7
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We did the ceremony without a Mass because my husband’s not Catholic and most of our friends aren’t either. We still had two readings, a Gospel, homily, prayers, and exchanging of the vows. I think it took about 30 minutes total. My brother did the full mass thing at the pushing of his inlaws. I remember that their wedding ceremony felt really long.

Post # 8
3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ceremony w/o mass for us. 15 mins for the Eucharist is about right

Post # 9
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re planning on doing the full mass.  Both sides of the family are Catholic and Fiance really wants it that way.  Bonus that it’ll make my grandparents happy too.

Post # 10
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

we’re doing a full mass – both sides of the family are catholic, and it seemed to make the most sense for us

the 15 minute difference is likely true – the ceremony is just like regular mass without the liturgy of the eucharist (basically stopping after the homily)

Post # 11
133 posts
Blushing bee

A Nuptial Mass should run about an hour.  A typical (non-nuptial Mass) is usually 45-50 minutes, and you have to add in time for the processional, exchange of vows, blessing of rings, etc. I have seen very large Nuptial Masses go as long as 75 minutes.

A Rite of Marriage without Mass normally runs 25-35 minutes, depending on the length of the priest’s homily.  So the difference is closer to 30 minutes than 15 minutes. 

If you want to see the difference, this is a Nuptial Mass:  http://catholicweddinghelp.com/topics/order-wedding-with-mass.htm  and this is a Rite of Marriage without Mass:  http://catholicweddinghelp.com/topics/order-wedding-outside-mass.htm

Usually it is recommended that two Catholics marry in a Mass, but it is not required.  It is usually recommended that a Catholic and a baptized Christian marry outside of Mass, but that is not required.  A Catholic and an unbaptized person can only be married outside of Mass.

Post # 12
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are doing only the Rite of Marriage but ideally I would have loved to have a full Mass. I’m in RCIA and will be a fully fledged Catholic come Easter (woohoo!) but my family are not Catholic (or not even religious for the most part) and neither are any of our friends -bar one or two who are lapsed! For me, I wouldn’t want my nearest and dearest sat there watching us receive communion on a day that is about us and our families coming together. I know Future Mother-In-Law is still praying we go down the Nuptual Mass route though!

Post # 13
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We had the full Mass since both of our families are Catholic and it was really important tou our parents that we do the full Mass.

Post # 14
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are just doing the ceremony.   My fiance is Catholic and my family (and I) are not.   The priest told us not to do mass.

Post # 15
21 posts
  • Wedding: January 2012

We are doing just the ceremony but are in the same boat – my father is really pushing for the whole mass.  In fact, he refuses to even acknowledge the fact its just the ceremony — guess he’ll be surprised the day of! 

Post # 16
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would have liked to do the full mass, but we don’t have that much time, and also, Fiance is not catholic, so ours will be like a mass, but without the Eucharist. 

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