Post # 1
We were settled on just the ceremony. My father would like us to do the mass. My family is very religious but my FI’s family is not very religious. I have been reading and learned that the difference is just about 15 minutes in lenght. True? What will you be doing?
Post # 3
We are just doing the ceremony, which is basically like a mass without the eucharist. So 15 minutes less is about right.
Post # 4
We chose to do a full mass. Both of our families are religious and I didn’t really fight them because I wanted a little more time at the church. Getting all dressed and putting all the time planning, I wanted to be able to enjoy our ceremony.
Our full mass was 45 mins. I have been to a couple weddings that were just ceremonies and they were shorter than 20 mins, but it may just depend on the church.
Post # 5
We did a full mass. It was about 45 minutes. Neither of our families are SUPER religious. I have to say, it was the most amazing part of the wedding day. It was beautiful and special. I loved having all the music and the priest did a wonderful job.
Post # 6
We’re just doing the “service w/o Mass” as Fiance is not Catholic, my dad’s now an Episcopalian, and many of our guests aren’t religious. You do still get all the music (except for Communion song obviously) that you would with a full Mass, so it’s not like it will be musicless.
The folks at my church pointed out that if one half of the guests will be going up for Communion and the other won’t, it’s probably best to not have communion. But it usually depends on the church.
Post # 7
We did the ceremony without a Mass because my husband’s not Catholic and most of our friends aren’t either. We still had two readings, a Gospel, homily, prayers, and exchanging of the vows. I think it took about 30 minutes total. My brother did the full mass thing at the pushing of his inlaws. I remember that their wedding ceremony felt really long.
Post # 8
ceremony w/o mass for us. 15 mins for the Eucharist is about right
Post # 9
We’re planning on doing the full mass. Both sides of the family are Catholic and Fiance really wants it that way. Bonus that it’ll make my grandparents happy too.
Post # 10
we’re doing a full mass – both sides of the family are catholic, and it seemed to make the most sense for us
the 15 minute difference is likely true – the ceremony is just like regular mass without the liturgy of the eucharist (basically stopping after the homily)
Post # 11
A Nuptial Mass should run about an hour. A typical (non-nuptial Mass) is usually 45-50 minutes, and you have to add in time for the processional, exchange of vows, blessing of rings, etc. I have seen very large Nuptial Masses go as long as 75 minutes.
A Rite of Marriage without Mass normally runs 25-35 minutes, depending on the length of the priest’s homily. So the difference is closer to 30 minutes than 15 minutes.
If you want to see the difference, this is a Nuptial Mass: http://catholicweddinghelp.com/topics/order-wedding-with-mass.htm and this is a Rite of Marriage without Mass: http://catholicweddinghelp.com/topics/order-wedding-outside-mass.htm
Usually it is recommended that two Catholics marry in a Mass, but it is not required. It is usually recommended that a Catholic and a baptized Christian marry outside of Mass, but that is not required. A Catholic and an unbaptized person can only be married outside of Mass.
Post # 12
We are doing only the Rite of Marriage but ideally I would have loved to have a full Mass. I’m in RCIA and will be a fully fledged Catholic come Easter (woohoo!) but my family are not Catholic (or not even religious for the most part) and neither are any of our friends -bar one or two who are lapsed! For me, I wouldn’t want my nearest and dearest sat there watching us receive communion on a day that is about us and our families coming together. I know Future Mother-In-Law is still praying we go down the Nuptual Mass route though!
Post # 13
We had the full Mass since both of our families are Catholic and it was really important tou our parents that we do the full Mass.
Post # 14
We are just doing the ceremony. My fiance is Catholic and my family (and I) are not. The priest told us not to do mass.
Post # 15
We are doing just the ceremony but are in the same boat – my father is really pushing for the whole mass. In fact, he refuses to even acknowledge the fact its just the ceremony — guess he’ll be surprised the day of!
Post # 16
I would have liked to do the full mass, but we don’t have that much time, and also, Fiance is not catholic, so ours will be like a mass, but without the Eucharist.