(Closed) Are You Doing Pre-Marital Counseling?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Are you and your fiance doing pre-marital counseling?
    Yes : (33 votes)
    31 %
    No : (27 votes)
    25 %
    Maybe/Haven't Decided : (6 votes)
    6 %
    Our pre-marital counseling is religion-based : (33 votes)
    31 %
    Our pre-marital counseling is not religion-based : (7 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Yup! We will be doing it. We’re Catholic, and it’s required by our priest.

    Post # 4
    Member
    993 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    we did the Catholic Engaged Encounter, it wasn’t overly relgious, actually it hardly was at all… I was glad we did and would highly recommend it to anyone

    Post # 5
    Member
    625 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Our pastor is a family friend and when we asked him to marry us, he graciously accepted, and also asked if we could do a couple sessions. I asked my Future Sister-In-Law what to expect since he married them also, and she just said it was very casual and they talked about wedding planning and the transition.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7652 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We went to premartial counseling. It was required by the church we got married in, but it was not technically religious counseling. We just had to have at least 3-5 sessions with a counselor, and then that meant we completed the cours eand got the certificate of completion signed. However, we opted to do 5 sessions.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2708 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We did since it was required by the Catholic Church.  However, I think ALL engaged couples should go through some sort of pre-martial counseling.  If all else fails, it will give you a common language that you and your SO can use in future arguments/discussions/decision making conversations.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We have been seeing a relationship counsellor. She started as my personal counsellor but we have a had a few couple sessions. We would like to also find a counsellor who specifically does premarital counselling. 
    We probably wont be doing religious based ones, though there is one through a local church i like so i wouldnt mind that.  

    Post # 9
    Member
    1805 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We did since were getting married in a catholic church, but honestly it wasnt super religious. It had us talking about EVERYTHING, which I thought was great! We went to many classes and many meetings (our church is serious about their classes lol) they were all worth it though, not one of them did I end up leaving thinking, that was dumb! I think every couple should go do some sort of pre marital counseling. It’s a good way to either get a pat on the back for having such great communication or a chance to work out some kinks before marriage

    Post # 10
    Member
    1294 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We sure are! It is through our christian church but it is actually really really applicable and not as religious as I thought. 🙂

    Post # 11
    Member
    495 posts
    Helper bee

    We signed up for a course that claimed to be nonreligious, but a month before the class, they sent us an email promoting a (religiously backed) cause that we STRONGLY disagree with. We canceled our class immediately.

     

    We could definitely talk with our priest more if we wanted, but we decided to read a few books on marriage and relationships and discuss them after, instead.

    Post # 12
    Bee
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    Yup, we did and and loved it! We learned a lot about how to control our arguments, how to combine finances, and a lot of other random stuff that we totally didn’t expect to learn but that has come in handy already in 3 months of marriage. So glad we did it! We are big talkers, and I think we communicate pretty well and we’ve discussed most major things (kids, future careers, financial goals, where we want to live, etc.) but pre-marital counseling brought up some issues we hadn’t even considered.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Yeah we are doing counseling through church. The foundation is our faith but clearly the topics are across the board. I think everyone should do some form of counseling. There’s a lot of stuff we’ve covered that I honestly would never have even thought to discuss.

    Post # 14
    Member
    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    we did very minimally. We are being married by a presbyterian reverend (he is my grandmothers preacher) and since he didn’t know us super well, he mostly just wanted to get to know us. We talked a little bit about our relationship, how we handle things, our thoughts/feelings etc. but mostly it was just about the wedding itself. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    A family friend is officiating our wedding. He has known my Fiance since he was born! He is not requiring us to do official wedding counseling, but we have had lunch with him a few times. He mostly just wants to get to know me before the wedding. So, I guess that would maybe count as extremely casual pre-marriage counseling?

    Post # 16
    Member
    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We did non-denominational faith-based premarital counseling.  It was kind of stupid, TBH. It was not required for anything (we did not get married in a church) we just did it for our relationship.  It wasn’t horrible, but it wasn’t as enriching as I thought it would be.  Oh well!

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