(Closed) Are you doing the bouquet toss/garter toss?

posted 13 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are you doing a bouquet toss and garter toss at your reception?

    Well, of course!

    Nah, not my thing.

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  • Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m not doing either. I want to keep my bouquet and I don’t feel comfortable having my Fiance up my skirt in front of my whole family (as someone above mentioned).

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I’m not sure about the boquet toss, though I’m thinking probably not (I want to keep my boquet myself), but we’re definitely not doing the garter toss. That’s just awkward :-P. Since when is having your husband stick his hands up your skirt and throw your undergarments at single men a fun idea? 😛 Nope, not my thing…

    Post # 34
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We aren’t doing them either, just not our style. 

    I did go to a friends wedding where she had a break-a-way bouquet to toss, and each flower had a "message" on it. It was really cute!

    Post # 35
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    no, won’t be that many single people there, besides my brothers.  We’re doing the anniversary dance

    Post # 36
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m not a big fan of either, honestly. The garter toss makes me a little uncomfortable and I don’t like the suggestion that every woman wants to catch the bouquet and thus get married. I don’t mind them, though, so if they make you happy, then you should do it!

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I’m lucky my Fiance is willing to be the center of attention long enough to marry me.  The garter toss would definitely be pushing it.  I would do the bouquet toss if people wanted it, but our female guests are generally already married or do NOT want to catch it. 

    Post # 38
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2022 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman

    We didn’t have a lot of singles at our destination wedding, plus I wasn’t crazy about the idea.  Just not us I guess.

    Post # 39
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    now that i think about it… 

    we were going to just do a bouquet toss… but i change my mind after reading these.  i remember feeling awkward each time i went out on the dance floor during weddings…  yes family, i am STILL single.  no, i am NOT dating anyone.  no, there’s nothing wrong with me.  

    Post # 40
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2008

    We didn’t do it at our wedding. When I was single, I never liked going up there. I always thought if the bouquet came towards me I would swat it down.  Plus we had a destination wedding and there were only three single girls there.

    Post # 41
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    the garter toss seems a bit tacky to me. i dont think my asian grandma will appreciate my husband going underneathe my wedding dress in front of her…i also dont want any single female guests to feel obligated to do the bouquet toss either. 

    Post # 42
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We’re doing both- most of our guests will be unmarried so it will be something fun for them.

    Post # 43
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    were doing both, it’s tradition, i’ve been tortured with them, so everyone else has to too. it’s kinda like wedding hazing. I don’t know but I love my garter and my tossing garter, so off it goes! 

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We’re unsure. Neither of us really has an attachment to either tradition, but we don’t really have a repulsion to them, either.

    Most of our guests will be married (except for the little kids, if they’re invited), so that may end up making our decision for us. Also, I may or may not be to <span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”text-decoration: line-through”>cheap frugal to get a bouquet OR a garter. =)

    In short, right now we’re on the "no" end of things, but we’re rather apathetic. It’s outside circumstances making our decision for us. 

    Post # 45
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    Honey bee

    I thought I would omit both, but after recently going to a wedding where there was neither it seemed as if something was missing.

     So, even though I’ve always hated the bouquet toss,  I’m going to open it up to all the ladies (married & single).  Those who are willing to participate can – and I don’t care if anyone sits out.

    Same thing with the garter. 

    While I like the idea of anniversary dance, you have to consider your guest list and take into consideration the feelings of widow/widowers, singles and divorcee’s; while they are sharing in your day of love… no need to make them feel completely left out by doing a couples dance and having them have to just sit there and watch everyone else participate (which emphasizes they are alone and/or their lost love).

    Post # 46
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    My wedding is going to be small.  By small I mean like 100 people, with approximately half of those invited being just my immediate family, aunts, uncles, and cousins.  As one of the babies of the family, it would just be unnatural to have my Fiance go up on me.  I figure that if he really wants to gnaw a garter off my leg, he can do it later that night ;).  I’m still in the air about the bouquet toss, I’m really bad at throwing things in front of me, I’m not sure how well throwing an object behind me will go!

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