(Closed) Are you even having a wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Elopement
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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@Happy Hopeful Bee:  exactly!! although, Fiance would be completely content with eloping. He doesn’t like being the center of attention lol.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@otto2008:  I’m a lawyer so wouldn’t have considered it. The courthouse is where I go to work so the idea had absolutely no appeal.

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We got married by a justice of the peace, we had a wedding later.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think we’re doing courthouse, honestly.  We just don’t have cash for a wedding, and I’ve already had one when I was young and stupid.  It just seems overwrought for us.  FI isn’t really interested, either.  So we’re thinking courthouse and dinner with our friends and my folks come October.  And maybe, down the line, a Jewish wedding/vow renewal thing when he converts.  But that’s a ways away.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@pineapplez17:  Girl my Fiance is not look looking forward to being center of attention either!!! Wow, they are both really similar in that way.

I kinda feel bad that our expectations for our wedding day are so opposite. Has it caused any issue between you two? How do you deal?

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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@Happy Hopeful Bee:  we’ve been fine thus far, although we’re having a long engagement (21 months, 16 months to go!) and haven’t done much planning (we do have our venue booked though). I assured him that everyone will be staring at me anyway (lol), and tried to focus on the things he’ll enjoy: “we’ll have great food, delicious cake, and I’ll look amazing and you’ll just stare at me all day!” His biggest hurdle was the getting engaged part, but now he’s full speed ahead for the wedding. He doesn’t care much about the details, but I think he just wants me to be happy. I told him he could be as involved or as uninvolved as he wants (although I’ll ask for his opinions). Seems to be working so far!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

A big part of me wants to escape wedding planning and elope, but we are having a fancy shmancy wedding.  Hopefully it will be epic.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@pineapplez17:  Yes!

I’m gonna go with that, everyone will be staring at me! Lol

He’s being awesome and supportive though because he says he wants me to have the experience. Guess I can’t ask for more than that 🙂

He wants to be and is involved in the major stuff, venue, food, colors, music etc. But just like yours the same with the details, he just wants me to have whatever I want, he doesn’t care at all about table linens, favors and flowers etc. So I’m sparing him the agony with that stuff, lol lol, so far so good! I’m more of a Type A anyway so this works well for us. He also has the option of being as hands on or hands off as he’d like, I’m happy either way 🙂

For him I feel like the social anxiety will be gone by the day of, that’s usually how it works with him and things like this, leading up to it he’s a bundle of nerves then he goes and has a blast once the actual event takes place. So I’m sure in the end it’ll turn out great!

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

This was a very strong contender for us.  Neither of us loves the spotlight (ok, he hates it) and I’m just not the I’ve-been-dreaming-of-this-day-since-I-was-6-princess type.  Plus, San Francisco city hall is gorgeous.  I was thinking of having a simple courthouse wedding, no dress, no fanfare and then a casual meal at one of my favorite restaurants with close friends and family only. 

Then for awhile I was totally sold on a Canadian elopement.  I mean like really ready to sign on the dotted line.  I was even talking to the officiant.  

At the very last moment we switched to a full-on, semi-formal wedding near Yosemite with 50-60 guests.  And while I don’t think I’ll regret any of it, the cost is stressful and I know I would have been equally as happy with either of the above options.  In fact, I think I mourned the elopement for quite awhile. And the end of the day, I just want to marry this super-awesome guy.  The details of how that gets done are really unimportant. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We have talked about eloping a ton. It’s super appealing to both of us but I’m my moms only daughter and she would support us but I know she’d be disappointed inside.

So we’re gonna have a simple, laid back and very us backyard wedding. Nothing crazy (or expensive) we decided to put the money that would have been spent on a house.

We still toss up the idea of eloping though. I want to say I could take that leap but realistically, I don’t have the balls to make my mom mad 😉

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@otto2008:  I did for my first marriage. It was very uneventful; we took our two witnesses to lunch and then went back to work.  Too blah for my taste. 

 

My recent wedding was a full on wedding for two.  Dress, location, flowers, cake, champagne. 

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