Post # 1
My husband and I recently got married. As soon as we got married, I’ve had baby fever. He is 28 and I am 26. He’s in grad school so we will wait about 3 years until he is done with school to have a child- this will also allow me to be a stay at home mom for at least a year. Even though I want a child- I don’t know if I will ever really be ready. Are you ever ready to have a baby??
Post # 3
Some days I don’t feel like I am, but I am 23 weeks pregnant with a planned baby. I think no matter how ready you are and even if you have everything in order and look good on paper, some part of you may still be scared as it’s a new adventure.
Post # 4
Nope! But I’ve never had baby fever and I’m 29! My mother said that she never really liked babies and just had the two of us before she turned 30 because she thought she “just should” because she did not want to be “too old” if she ever wanted kids…I guess that will probably be me pretty soon.
Post # 5
I think you are never really 100% ready until the baby is here and then your motherly instincts kick in. I had my first at 16 and I was not scared one. But let me tell you something, I am 35 now and we are going to start TTC in a few months and I am scared out of my mind.
Post # 6
Emotionally, I was MORE than ready to have our daughter.
My hubs was a little more hesitant. I think that’s normal with men though…lol
I think there will always be lots of reasons to wait. For us, we wanted to be married first, have his company started, do this and that, but then I got pregnant a little earlier than expected.
We wouldn’t change a thing! Sometimes our ideas of what we need to have done before we’re ready, aren’t so important in the grand scheme of things!
Post # 7
I am 30, I don’t know how people younger than me have kids. It’s hard enough making sure I am fed.
Post # 8
I dont feel like it. I’m 32 and we will be trying this year… but if the clock wasnt starting to tick off its rocker, I’d be glad to wait a few more years. I have so much traveling I want to do! But I guess that can wait and continue after a few years when baby is old enough to be left at home with grandparents 🙂
Post # 9
You know….life is so full of ups and downs that you will never really find that “perfect” time. So it is hard to say.
I told myself I wanted to wait until I finished school and had an amazing career. I did not feel ready when I got pregnant (I have not yet attained either of those things)…. but as the days go by, I feel like I am ready. I don’t know, it is hard to describe.
Post # 10
I don’t think you are ever really ready. Its just something you have to jump into with two feet and do your best. We found out we were having a baby a few months before we wanted to TTC and now that its a reality I feel more than ready but if asked in the weeks leading up to it i would have said i needed more time.
Post # 11
My thinking is that nothing is ever going to be 100% perfect so all you can do it make the best judgements as to timing with the information and feelings you have – its about weighing things up. You never know what life will throw at you so all you can do is go for it when you both feel you want to.
Post # 12
Yes, I do think you can be 100% ready for a baby. I feel like I’ve been totally ready for a while, TTC just hadn’t been going my way 🙁 So I think it is possible to 100% ready, but not everyone has to feel that way before starting to try!
Post # 13
I think you can be totally ready. However, I think it is normal to be scared. They are two separate emotions!
Post # 14
@soyjoy222: I agree, that is more like what I feel.
Post # 15
You’re never 100% ready to have a baby. A lot of people claim to be financially ready but you’re never truly financially ready either. Things happen.
Post # 16
@ArmyWife8806: A lot of people claim to be financially ready but you’re never truly financially ready either. Things happen.
I’m not sure that’s a fair statement. Things happen, such is life, with or without a baby. Thats like saying you’re never really financially ready for anything – car, house, life – because things happen.