Post # 1
I had a bride come in and ask for the “fairytale wedding” I mean big puffy dress with the big hoop crinoline, tiara, etc! And I was amazed at how excited she was, but she brought her children to the consult and they were just negative negative negative. One daughter was so disgusted she got up and left and that brought the tears for the mom. She was in her late late late 40’s. I wanted to take up for the mom, but i left it to family. Is it ever too old to have a fairytale wedding?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
No, it’s not too late, and your post makes me really sad. The daughter’s probably jealous that her mom is having the sort of wedding she wants.
Post # 4
NEVER!! I am 41, an encore bride, and cannot wait to plan what is going to be my fairytale! I married (and divorced) my first husband more than 20 years ago, and didn’t have the luxury of having money enough to do what I really wanted. Fiance and I are fortunate enough to be well into our careers and financially able to support our plans.
Post # 5
NEVER too late. I hope her daughter can have a change of heart.
Post # 6
No I think as long as you aren’t too obviously about it and translate it in way that is adult and make sense then go for it.
Post # 7
Awww!! I feel so sorry for that Mom!! I’m an older bride (35) and have 2 children of my own. My daughter and my mother came with me dress shopping and it is one of the most treasured memories so far in all the wedding planning. My daughter was blunt in her opinions (as I raised her to be…so proud!!) and she let me know what looked good and what needed to be put back ASAP! Lol. But it was so much fun and I just wish that that Mom could’ve had the same type of experience!! Poor thing!!
It doesn’t matter how old you are to celebrate a joyous event in any way you choose!!!
Post # 8
Wow, how nice.
Nobody I know would ever dare say that me, though, lol. But, if they did, I’d laugh and say “Age is just a number, baby.”
I never let haters get me down, regardless of who they are.
Post # 9
I don’t think you can be too old for a traditional white wedding, but I do agree with @TwoCityBride that you have to translate it in an adult fashion.
You never know what sort of family issues are really at the root of her daughter’s reaction. It may just be petty jealousy or thinking her mom is ‘too old’ for that sort of thing, but there might be some very justified resentment about the fiance or the resolution of her parent’s marriage that she is dealing with. Whatever it is, I hope that they can come to terms with it and she can be happy for her mother.
Post # 10
How many prior weddings has the mom had? Honestly, my mom is about to get married for the third time and I think it’s disrespectful and distasteful that she’s planning a big wedding…she’s already had two. Nothing to do with age or jealousy, but I’d probably leave the room too.
Post # 11
@Ellegee: Who is your mother being disrespectful to by having a third wedding? If she’s paying for it herself I don’t understand why you have a problem with it. How about just being happy for her that she found love again?
Post # 12
@Sunfire: I would love to be able to say that I’m happy she found love again but that isn’t really her MO. The last wedding was 9 years ago, to a man 25 years her senior, a mutual funds manager who’s written two NY times bestselling books. She divorced him four years later, with significant financial gain.
This time, her groom as is also a wealthy business owner who proposed rather quickly. Therr would be the exact same invitees on my mom’s side that were at her wedding to my father and her wedding to her second husband. If there was ever a time for a private destination wedding, I think this would be one of them, but that’s just my slightly biased opinion 😉
Post # 13
@Ellegee: Yikes, bummer. I see your point now!