(Closed) Are you f*cking kidding me?! VENT…LONG!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sorry to hear that.  I know it’s disappointing.  I’d be a little hurt too.  If I were you I’d probably rethink inviting her to my wedding, but would probably still invite her anyways. 


Post # 3
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hidden Acres

Sounds like it might be time to rethink your guest list. They aren’t quid pro quo but it does make you re-think who your true friends are. Sorry you’re in that situation though. 

Post # 4
2122 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

How rude!! The bit that made me laugh was ‘can only invite 200 people’. Wow, such an intimate wedding /s.

I’m so sorry OP, I’d be pissed and she’d be out of my own wedding.

Post # 5
1221 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Yeah that would bother me. Her excuse is kinda lame. If she wanted you to be there, she would’ve invited you or at the very least had a discussion about whether you’d be able to travel for the wedding before totally counting you out. I wouldn’t invite her to yours.

Post # 6
3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel bad for “S” being put on the spot by your mom like that. We really have no idea what the circumstances of her wedding are. I married a man who has a HUGE family. We invited 300 people and I still didn’t end up inviting many of my friends from college. I’m sure I had people expecting invitations too, but our families came first.

Post # 7
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

She’s a jerk. To invite ALL the other people in your circle and not you? Totally classless IMO, and I’d get that message loud and clear.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  hippopotamus.
Post # 8
2837 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

SkinnyLatte17:  Gross.  Really sorry to hear this– and I would be frustrated, too.

I do sort of think it’s funny S got “called out” by accident by your mom– serves her right!! 

Just not sure why she’s discuss wedding things with you– and all that jazz if she wasn’t going to invite you.  And for someone to say “we can only have 200 people at our venue”…..ummmm I know family can be quite large, but it’s almost another insult on top of original insult.


Def rethink her invite to your wedding– 


Post # 9
4712 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m sorry you’re going through this. My friend did a similar thing to me, telling me I was invited, but I never heard a thing… since we’re not super close anymore I wasn’t too worried. Our entire group of friends still hang out together and I moved away after high school. I realized that I was really out of the group when I went home last Christmas, had plans with one person in the group to go to a concert, and she told me an hour before that she couldn’t come because she was going to watch movies with her husband that night.  People are so nice.

Post # 10
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

SkinnyLatte17: I would be really disappointed and hurt too. Maybe give her a call and have a conversation with her to clear the air? 

Post # 11
2394 posts
Buzzing bee

Take her off your list immediately.

If she were having a small and intimate wedding, or if she hadn’t invited all of your other friends, my advice would be different. 

I’m sorry this happened to you! Hugs!

Post # 12
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’m not fond of driving a long way for weddings so I wouldn’t really care – and I would have likely declined even if I had been invited, but I am me, and you are you. You seem to be bummed about this, and I don’t think you’re wrong to be bummed, especially since you had spoken with her about details and such early on.

Honestly though, just keep in mind that weddings make some people think crazy thoughts, and sometimes bring out the not-so-good side of people. A good friend is getting married next Friday and we’re not able to make it (10 hour drive for a 4pm wedding), and my friend made some not-so-nice comments about how SOME people need to figure out their priorities and realize that work will ALWAYS be there but weddings are a once in a lifetime event. I’m a bit annoyed, but in the long run I know that its just the wedding making her a wee bit crazy.

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