(Closed) Are you getting registry complaints?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
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  • Post # 3
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I have people complaining that I have done a registry! They think we should just get what we are given… we have been living together for 6 YEARS. I have NO storage space for things we dont need! grr. 3 people have said they will get us sheets without asking what size or colour to get! Let alone the fact I already have 6 pairs of sheets. I dont need any more!

    I have just tried explaining we have it so no one wastes their money on things we will have no choice but to get rid of. I dont think they care sadly

    Post # 4
    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No complaints but then again our stuff hasn’t gone out for a shower yet.  Also, my name is not very common (well my first name is but not last) and I don’t think my fiance’s last name is very common either.  When I search we’re the only ones that come up so I foresee no issues

    Post # 5
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I just made sure everyone had the registry number, so if they have issues spelling it or finding it in the search they can just type in the specific number. I have a super common name and there’s about 500 other people with the same first & last name if you type it in. My fiance has a super long, complicated polish name with lots of z’s, y’s, & c’s, and no one can type it out apparently. 

    Post # 7
    3716 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    Our ceremony and reception are less than 3 miles apart, but the ceremony is in DC and the reception is in VA (where we live, literally in between the two). People search for our registry under VA, not DC. Even though it is on the save the dates, wedding website, and reception and it is pretty widely known that Georgetown University is in DC. Even my parents are confused. 

    Post # 9
    3694 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Former Smith, here!  Luckily my Mr. has an uncommon last name so mom told anyone who asked to look it up by his name.  His brother just got married and has a registry there, too, but their names are different enough and my name is sure different than his wife. 

    The only comment I got was that the registry was pretty small.  I said… ‘it’s a small wedding!’ 

    Post # 10
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I haven’t had anybody make a comment about the registry or how it’s set up.  Instead, a couple of my friends have said “you didn’t register, did you?”.  Ummm,yep, I did.  I guess they think that because I’m an “older bride” (I’m 33) that was inappropriate or they shouldn’t have to get me a gift.  They’re right that they don’t have to get me anything, but I feel bad that there’s so much judgement.

    Post # 12
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

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    @Ms. Kitty:  I can’t believe people said that to you! I’m 40, worked PT at crate & barrel for 4 years, and you bet I still registered! When you’re “older,” you’re ready for upgrades (I was SO happy about the new toaster oven at my shower that I hugged it!) Like you said, no one is required to give gifts, but people want to, and a registry makes it so much easier.

    Future Mother-In-Law is in the process of downsizing, and she kept picking at my registry-“If you don’t get the one you want, you can have mine.” NO, I don’t want your old, used one that’s the wrong color, I want the one that matches our decor. “I saw one at a store today a lot cheaper on sale.”

    Drove me UP the wall. “Is there anything you want that you don’t have listed? I’d be glad to get it for you for shower or wedding?” We told her no, we listed everything we wanted, and she went off registry for the shower, with stuff we’re not going to use.

    Like Bears-bub said, I think some people just don’t care. I understand wanting to give something “special,” but if it’s not going to be used and will make it’s way to the donation pile… 


    Post # 13
    254 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    So, after reading up on wedding etiquette, I kept hearing over and over again about how you are NOT supposed to put the registry information in the wedding invitations. Instead, I included a card with our website on it, and the website has the info about our registry. Almost immediately after sending the invites out, my mom has been calling me up to complain that I didn’t include the registry info. Apparently, my parents’ older friends don’t have computers and had no idea how to find the registry. Lol, oh well, I still wouldn’t put them in.  

    Post # 15
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    No complaints but, I have a very uncommon last name, as in everyone with that name is in some way related to me.  I go by a nickname and have never used my full first name.  I recently had a second cousin get engaged who has the same unique last name and a first name one letter off from mine.  Think Kristine or Kristin.  Yeah, I am just hoping that with the same small state people don’t get confused.  I know the grooms have different names (duh) but if someone just gives our first name in a store and doesn’t pay attention it could be confusing. 

    Post # 16
    8878 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    My mom complains that we didn’t put enough on our registry. We bought a house in December and received tons of house warming gifts. We told her we don’t want to add stuff just for the sake of adding STUFF.

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