Post # 17
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Worker bee
None of my close family and friends have had a wedding-the first one I ever attended was at 23 years of age, so it was never something I was interested in until I got engaged. I have no serious expectations other than to have a wonderful day with my family, friends and husband. The details are totally unimportant, they are just fun to think about 🙂 .
I have travel dreams, though, and I would love to have a tropical or european honeymoon. Not going to happen any time soon, but what can you do? Maybe a marriedmoon later on!
Post # 18
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Worker bee
With 11 days to go, my dream wedding is within reach. And I can proudly say that we did it under budget and without borrowing or charging a thing!! We started planning early. I am a DIY bride to the bone, so anything I could do myself I did. I enjoyed every minute and can’t wait to see all come together.
Post # 19
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Sugar bee
@yanamari: I’m getting the wedding I didn’t want; a full blown traditional boring as hell wedding with all the works.
My idea was going to the marriage bureau (idk if it’s city hall or what) signing a few papers and then going out to party with whoever wanted to come, and enjoying married life.
Le sigh.
Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I never had a dream wedding. Never really thought about a wedding and definitely didn’t plan anything until we got engaged.
We could afford a more expensive wedding than the one we are having. However, we are both pretty frugal and we don’t really need fancy things. This has led to some interesting stragtagies, ie, we typically avoid telling vendors our professions so they don’t assume we have a bigger budget than we would like to spend.
We’ve done fairly well finding things in the price ranges where we’re comfortable. We don’t want or expect anything to be perfect. It just has to work. It’s really the time with friends and family that is important to us.
Post # 21
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My ideas have completely changed from when I was younger. My dream wedding when I was in my 20’s was lavish and expensive lol. Hollywood full blown extravegant.
Now that I’m in my 30’s and paying for this myself and seeing how much everything costs a lot of this is DIY. I’m so fortunate that we have family and friends who are talented and able to do things like Photography, Video, Officiate etc for us. It saves a lot of money on things that would be otherwise expensive and allows us to spend more money on things like catering, flowers, decor etc. But even the decor will be a lot of flea market, garage sale or DIY things. Fiance and I are both country folks and I love the romance of rustic farm living. So mason jars, burlap, birch wood, lanterns will be everywhere which is inexpensive. My Fiance is also handy and will be making our cake stand and some of the decor that would be a little more expensive to buy or find.
So in a way I’m getting my dream wedding which is having all my family and friends there to celebrate with me (300 guests) for less than $10,000 just by having friends and family help with the expensive things and keeping decor simple.
Post # 22
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Busy bee
Nope, but I’m getting a much nicer wedding out of the deal. I had dreamed of a small, informal, budget wedding. What I’m getting is much fancier and bigger than I ever thought about. It’s taken some adjustment to come to terms with things – I’m really very into a more mismatched, homey feel – but I’m totally coming around. My fiance deserves this kind of party, and I want to start our marriage off right – with a big party full of love and beauty. Eventually, I’m hoping I’ll start to feel worthy of the wedding I’m getting!
Post # 23
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Helper bee
Yes, we were going to do it on a smaller scale since we were saving for a house but my parents have generously offered to cover 80% of the costs, and I could have the wedding I have always wanted. My mom is absolutely thrilled to be helping out and wedding is on her brain more than it is on mine.
The wedding isnt over the top, but more classic and elegant.
Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@lealorali: +1. I didn’t have many expectations, and our wedding was one of the happiest days I can remember… so I think it all worked out 🙂 I don’t think how amazing/memorable a wedding is is proportional to the amount of money you spend, or the details or entertainment. I’ve been to some super expensive weddings that were honestly pretty boring and impersonal. And one of my favorite weddings I’ve ever been to was planned in a month on a budget of $1k…
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