(Closed) Are you getting your "dream" wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: Will you get to have your dream wedding?
    Yes! Going all out for it... not a problem : (38 votes)
    18 %
    Yes... going all out, and it's going to kinda hurt financially, but it's a one-time lifetime event! : (9 votes)
    4 %
    Mostly... Making some sacrifices, but for the most part it'll be pretty close : (45 votes)
    22 %
    Sort of. My views have sort of "come down" from what I had in mind, so I'm happy with things : (30 votes)
    15 %
    Made a lot of sacrifices... these things are too expensive. I'll still be happy with it though. : (22 votes)
    11 %
    It's not really what I had in mind, but at least we'll be married! : (13 votes)
    6 %
    No, but that's okay... money and being married is important. The celebration isn't that big a deal. : (13 votes)
    6 %
    No, and I'm bummed about it =( : (7 votes)
    3 %
    Didn't really have an idea in mind at any point, so I'm happy with what I'm getting : (29 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    3778 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I can’t really vote in your poll, because none of the options apply to me. 


    Of course I had a “dream” wedding in mind. I’m also getting my dream wedding without breaking the bank. My parents are paying for everything, but they gave me a limited budget and I am staying within that budget.


    I don’t feel like I’m cutting any corners or “sacrificing” things. I’m getting what I want without going crazy and choosing the most expensive option I can find. The only thing I’ve had to “sacrifice” (if you can call it that) is uplighting. I wanted a different DJ, so the uplighting had to go to allow for this particular DJ. But to me, that’s not a sacrifice. I wasn’t planning on uplighting in the first place, but with my original choice for DJ, it was included in a package. 

    Post # 4
    3823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I feel like it’s not my wedding anymore…actually I was told that it’s not. My parents said that it’s their wedding too. So at this time, I’m gonna say no.

    Post # 5
    1360 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Yes I do have a dream wedding in mind. Am I going to spend the 75k on it minimum that it would take to have it? Ummm no! That is a lot of money!!! Could we afford it, it would be a stretch but yes probably but it is still seventy five thousand dollars! We could buy a beautiful house for that where we live!! We’re probably going to spend around 15k I still cringe at that number but there are thing I am not sacrificing more for that will cost around 10k (food, open bar, photographer, venue) and my parents are giving a large part to us so it is not that bad but still. The money saver in me wants to throw up when I think about it. It is still my dream wedding, maybe without my dream decorations but I am marrying the man of my dreams so yeah, dream wedding applies 😉 


    Post # 6
    6345 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We’ve gone pretty much all out; the only things we can’t have that we’d like are a full open bar all day/night (would cost us around $15-20k; spending over $6k on drinks as it is), and an album (spending $3750 on our photography, which is at the top of our budget; albums cost $1500, so, we’re getting one for our first aniversary instead).

    Otherwise I can’t think of anything we’re not having that we’d like to have; we have our dream venue, I have an amazing dress, veil, and shoes, OH will have a designer suit and shoes, we’re buying the bridesmaids gorgeous dresses, having the flowers and cake we want, having a string quartet for the ceremony and drinks reception and a live band for the evening, etc. Really can’t think of anything else we’d change!

    Post # 7
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Yah I think it will be pretty awesome! There’s extras we could have but I feel like some stuff is a waste of money so we won’t do it. 

    Post # 8
    8449 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I didn’t really have a “dream wedding” or any wedding in mind for that matter.  I never really wanted to get married since I wasn’t planning on having kids.  For me, not going over budget/spending too much was far more important than what flowers, dress, etc.  Fortunately, I’m time rich (money poor), so I was able to get things exactly as I wanted by doing them DIY.

    Post # 9
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I never dreamed about getting married.  BUT…since starting to plan a year ago, I have definitely changed what we’re going to have.  I wanted a garden wedding, and while we’re getting married in a garden, the details are all much more formal and …the only word i can think of is square…than I initally wanted. 

    Post # 10
    7231 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I had a dream wedding in mind. However, it’s not one of the options. My dream wedding would be family that we are actually close to and friends we have seen in the last year. Unfortunately it has ballooned to way too many people. Beyond that I didn’t really have a dream wedding.

    Post # 11
    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I couldn’t vote in your poll because while we’re having a very fancy wedding with everything we want, it’s not our dream wedding. My fiancé and I wanted a small destination wedding with our immediate family and best friends only in the Carribean.  We’re having a big ballroom wedding in our hometown instead. 

    Post # 12
    1406 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Im getting my dream dress because i dont care for a dream wedding. 

    Post # 13
    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    As much as I rant and rave about how annoying my mom is and no matter how many times I say I’m ready to get married already, I’m getting my dream wedding, and it’s no problem. I have to say, I never dreamt it would be this much work, stress or effort. But I’m so pleased with the way it’s coming together and in the end I’m going to be so happy. 

    Post # 14
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My “dream” wedding was either in Jamaica (or some island) on the beach or in the heart of NYC at a loft or rooftop. I wanted both to be on a smaller scale. So I would say, no, I’m not getting my “dream” wedding. However, many of my friends swear I am getting a dream wedding bc it’s turned into a huge affair where the budget has just….well, there isnt a budget.

    Post # 15
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I wouldn’t exactly call it a “dream” wedding because I never really thought about what I wanted for it until we got engaged.

    I definitely have NO interest in going “all out” for the wedding!! For me that would be a “nightmare wedding.”

    But yes, so far it seems I’m going to have exactly the wedding I want.

    Post # 16
    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    It depends on what you mean by dream…

    I was never one of these children who dreamed of marrying Prince Charming and living happily ever after… I never believed in fairy tales…

    If money was no object, I would do things differently, maybe, but then… it just seems so wasteful for just one day… so maybe I would like to think that I wouldn’t.

    But really… dreams change when reality approaches, and that’s not a bad thing. Who wants to live in a fantasy world? Not me!

    So the answer to your question is: it’s difficult to reply honestly!

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