Post # 17
Initially, we will by a few grand. But if you factor in monetary gifts, then we’ll still come out way ahead. (And I don’t mean that at all to sound greedy, I just know many guests will be giving us gifts.)
Post # 18
Our hot water tank and dishwasher went out in the two weeks before the wedding. You are right, it can definitely happen! :/
Post # 19
Nope. That was a big part of our discussions prior to getting engaged was that neither of us felt it was worth going into debt for one day. We budgeted according to what we had in savings and/or would be able to put aside each month, with the assumption that neither of our parents would be donating (although mine did end up giving us some money).
We’re paying cash if it makes sense to do so (i.e., gets us a price break); otherwise, we’re probably going to put a few vendors on a credit card to get the rewards points but we won’t be carrying a balance.
Post # 20
We haven’t officially started planning our wedding yet, but, we’re both on the same page that we will not be going into debt over it. Nothing will be put on a credit card and there will be no loans taken out. If we can’t afford it, we don’t need it.
Post # 21
Heck no! I have no debt, and refuse to take loans out for anything but a mortgage, car, or education.
Post # 23
Hell no. My savings are taking a big hit. As I normally put more money away, and I’m taking a large sum of money out of money I have been saving for years. However for me personally it wouldn’t be worth it to go into debt or to put even a dollar on my credit card for this wedding. I prefer to have a dream marriage and a dream life, where I live within my means then spending money I don’t have.
Post # 24
If I’m not getting daily use out of it (i.e. our house, my car, my education) then there’s no point in going into debt. I’d prefer not to have to go into “debt” for any of those things either, but I don’t have an extra 25K waiting around at all times, especially at around the same time.
ETA: 25K referring to car or education, I guess, obviously not house!
Post # 25
Nope. Not happening. I don’t think it’s worth it just for one day.
I’ll take out loans for school (mine or his), a house, or a car, but not the wedding.
Post # 26
That is the one thing I am most afraid of! My cousin had a destination wedding and I think she put everything on credit. This is all speculation but I think she wasn’t able to pay a lot back because a few months after her wedding they got evicted from their appartment :/ IDK if that was the exact reason but IDK it’s just a coincidence.
I know my Fiance and I are really good with money and know we can stick to a budget, but still I refuse to go into debt for a “party.”
Post # 27
No way! I firmly believe in having the celebration that you can afford. Some people may not like it or others may turn up their noses but those that truly care about you will just be happy to share that moment with you.
Post # 28
no, but i am also not having my “dream” wedding… that would have set us back at least another 7k and there was no way that was happening.
Post # 29
Fiance and I are having to take out a loan. It was not planned and is due to a recent family emergency. His parents have had medical issues and can no longer afford their travel and lodging to the wedding. Since it’s his family, we are more than happy to take on this small amount of debt to secure that they be present for their only son’s wedding 🙂
Post # 30
Unfortunately, we are going into debt. About a month ago, I would’ve voted otherwise and said everything would be paid off and we’d be totally and absolutely debt-free by the time the wedding happened.
We had some unfortunate family issues where my dad basically lost his shit, wrote off the whole family, and decided he wasn’t paying for our wedding anymore. (Mind you, he’d been paying for small things here and there throughout, so I knew he had the money and was *going* to send it. And he’d been consistent since last December..) Why did he lose his shit, you ask? Because we didn’t call him on his birthday. Before 730 pm his time. Which is 3 hours ahead of us. On the same day FI’s grandmother went into the hospital and his dad entered addiction treatment. But of course, calling my dad for his birthday should’ve been the first thing I did. *sigh* sorry, sore subject.
So, we were forced to use every ounce of honeymoon money and borrow money from family. We couldn’t justify throwing out the $$$$ we ourselves already put into this :/
The upside is that we’ll have it paid off in no time 🙂
Post # 31
Nope, I refuse to have a more expensive wedding than we can afford.