(Closed) Are you going to ask your BMs to wear their hair a certain way?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Are you going to ask your BMs to wear their hair a certain way?

    Yes, I'm going to give them specific instructions (french twist, low messy bun, etc.)

    Yes, I'm going to give them general guidelines ("up" or "half-up half-down" etc.)

    Nope, they can do whatever.

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

    I just asked that they don’t wear their hair completely up. So half up or all down is fine.

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I just said “nothing prom-y”–other than that, they have free reign.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Mine will be all down, so they’re not doing that. Otherwise, whatever they like!

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m letting them do whatever they want with their hair. They all have different lengths of hair, so it’s just easier for them to choose what they want :]

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i’m trusting everyone! i’m sure that we chose them for a reason and that they will respect me by not doing something totally crazy and unexpected

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2020

    I said 1/2 up unless they had something else in mind. they all just trusted my amazing stylist! I also made them haircessories and they mixed and matched. it was so cute!

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I told them they can do whatever they want. We will probably try to keep it simple.

    Post # 24
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I just want their hair up. I don’t care how it’s done, but since it will be a really hot and really long day it would be great it everyone had an updo.

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I told them they can all decide what to do, but to keep things uniform.  They’ll decide amongst themselves what to do. 

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Nope, I’m telling them to do what they want.

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Well, they can wear their hair any way they want except I did get them etsy headbands to wear with whatever style they choose.

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I only had two girls, and I wish I had been more direct about their hair 🙁 Oh well. I was REALLY flexible with everything else (get any dress you want in this color, wear whatever shoes you want, whatever jewlery you want, do your own make-up if you want, etc.), but our wedding had a casual elegance feel to it, and my girls both got fancy updos, and they also both have amazing hair when it’s down. Whenever I look at the photos, they look a little cookie-cutter and stiff to me, and while it doesn’t bother me a ton, I wish I had politely asked that they wore their hair down to complete the look. Oh well.

    My suggestion would be to just ask that they match their hair design to the overall wedding look/feel.

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I dont really care what they do as long as they dont have “bridesmaidy” hair.  At first I was thinking I want them all to have their hair down, but I am not sure anymore!  I guess I still have some time to think about it 🙂

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    has to be down to hide a tattoo for one of the BM’s so down for everyone! 🙂

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    It’s up to them. There are 9 of them some with long hair, some with short. I just told them as long as it ‘looks done’ and is out of their face. I’m very picky and hate wearing my hair all up so I would never want someone to tell me how to do it.

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