(Closed) Are you going to take your fiance's last name?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: How are you changing your name after marriage? Or if you already did.
    FirstName MiddleName MaidenName : (73 votes)
    14 %
    FirstName MiddleName Maiden/MiddleName NewLastName : (42 votes)
    8 %
    FirstName MiddleName NewLastName : (296 votes)
    58 %
    FirstName MaidenName NewLastName : (54 votes)
    11 %
    FirstName MiddleName MaidenName-NewLastName : (25 votes)
    5 %
    FirstName MiddleName Combination of MaidenName and NewLastName : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Other : (20 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1330 posts
    Bumble bee

    yes. His is one syllable, whcih goes nicely with my unique first name.

    Post # 5
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    i have no particular attachment to my last name, and it’s hard for people to pronounce.  his is one syllable, and very readable.  and i think it’s beautiful.  i’m excited to make it mine, too!

    Post # 6
    27 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I added my husband’s last name to my last name (with a space instead of a hyphen) because, like you, I wanted to keep my last name (and it was important to me that it stay my last name) but also wanted to be connected to his. Your solution of having your last name as a second middle last name works too! I understand the concern about people not immediately knowing if you’re married if you have different last names, but that is common enough now that I really doubt it would be a problem. Do what feels right for you! 

    Post # 7
    801 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    First Name ; FI’s last name

    –> No middle name for me (never had one)

    Post # 8
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m taking his last name, but I’m pretty attached to it though and I can’t get rid of it completely so I will be First Maiden Husband’s last name.


    Post # 9
    2338 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I always considered it traditional to take your maiden name as your new middle name, and to take your FI’s last name as your own.

    However, my last name, while not a bad last name, would make a TERRIBLE/AWKWARD middle name, so I’m just dropping it altogether and taking FI’s last name.

    Post # 10
    1697 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My son has my last name so that’s why Fiance is ok with me keeping my last name. If we have kids our children will just have Fiance last name. I don’t want my son to be the only one in the family with a different last name. My new name (First name middle name maiden last name-new last name will have 32 letters in it…more than the alphabet ! lol! I love my last name and would never drop it. Both my older sisters hyphenated as well. BUT after the ceremony and at the reception I am “letting” us be introduced as ” Mr and Mrs. Jose and Angelica new last name 🙂

    Post # 11
    1098 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I considered all the various forms of name gymnastics only to realize that what I really wanted was just to keep my last name so that’s what I’m going to do. 


    Post # 12
    1352 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I dropped my last name and took his… I have to admit it is MUCH weirder than I ever thought it would be.

    Post # 14
    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Quite a while until we actually get married, but for years I’ve planned to make my last name a second middle name. I just don’t want to lose it completely and this works perfectly for me.

    Post # 15
    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My name will stay unchanged. We don’t change our names in marriage here.

    Post # 16
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We’ve been talking about this quite a bit lately…

    I am most likely going to change my name for the first time in 50+ Years (I kept my own family name when I was married the first time)

    Seriously considering dropping all middle-name references (my own, or my maiden name) and just using my regular first name and his surname

    They go well together, and are easy-peasy

    Going to be kind of wierd though having no middle name, and giving up my long-standing family name

    But it will certainly mark a new beginning for me and my guy (too many bad memories tied to my former self and a difficult / abusive first marriage and aftermath)


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