- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
So I just had an awkward exchange with my coworker and her six-year-old daughter. My coworker decided to bring her daughter by the office and introduce her to everyone. So I’m just sitting at my desk doing my work and my coworker comes in with her daughter. Says to the kid “This is Lady Blackheart” and to me “This is my daughter!”, all with a proud look on her face.
This is how the conversation went. It’s clear that the kid is shy, which does not help matters.
Little girl: “Hi.”
*Awkward silence in which I’m trying to figure out what to say next and meanwhile, this girl is just staring at me*
Me: “So…I like your dress! Very pink.”
Little girl and her mom: “Thank you”.
*Another awkward silence*
Me: “Yep. It’s very cute and spring-like. Perfect for this weather.”
At this point, the mom decided to put me out of my misery and beckons her daughter to come with her so she can be introduced to everyone else. And I breathe a sigh of relief.
I am NOT good with little kids. I never know what to say and I don’t know what they’re interested in, what kind of things they like at that age, etc.
And I don’t like babies really. A few years ago, I took care of my former best friend’s 6 month old baby for two weeks. And it was a nightmare. That baby constantly cried. I had to walk around the house with her in my arms nonstop to get her to NOT cry. And she would constantly vomit on me. So yeah. That put me off babies. Definitely quieted my ticking biological clock, for sure!
My mother swears that it’ll be different when it’s my own child someday. I sincerely hope that that’s true. I do want a child of my own someday. But it worries me that I find kids annoying. I really do. I only like kids when they are quiet and not in the way. And now I feel like a terrible person.
Luckily Boyfriend or Best Friend thinks that my attitude towards other people’s kids is hilarious. I’ve told him numerous times that I DO want children someday. He wants children and I’m afraid that he will start to think that I don’t want kids. Even though he’s reassured me that he’s not worried, I still worry a little bit that my attitude will turn him off.
Anyway. So are you good with kids? Do you like them or generally want them to stay away from you? And if it’s the latter, do you still want kids someday? Just curious what the general consensus is on this.