Post # 32
Also one to not normally gush, but yes, DH and I are very happy in our marriage. We live in a small, small town without any friends or family nearby so we spend a lot of time “just us” and it is wonderful. Don’t get me wrong, we can sometimes annoy eachother, bicker a bit or need some space from time to time, but no real hardships (knock on wood) and we are very much in love. I truly feel lucky every day to be married to him.
Post # 33
Relationships on here have gone sour because they were not ready to be married in the first place. People are so pressured by family, friends, our culture and such that we rush into getting married thinking it’s the right thing to do next. That isn’t true. People often become engaged, married, have kids before really understanding eachother, having 100% open communication, and TRUE unconditional love. You have to be able to talk to your partner with an open heart and always talk loving to eachother. I think people have these problems before the wedding, but all the wedding hype makes them forget it for a bit and they think that it will go away once married, but quickly realize that isn’t true. That’s why you hear of so many people being divorced so quickly. Anyways, small little rant, but as poster starrynight, they have been alot and know what to expect from one another. They have been eachothers rock and therefore will more than most likely make it.
Post # 34
It’s definitely an adjustment, but if you have a great foundation before the engagement, it’s wonderful! I have never felt more comforted and safe in my life. I am a VERY independent and strong woman but I can’t imagine what my life would be without him. Getting in bed every night next to him and always having someone to call when life gets rough is the most amazing feeling. I’m never alone. Ever. He will ALWAYS be there and there’s absolutely nothing better than that.
Post # 35
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
We’re happily married. We’ve been together for 7.5 years. We’ve had our ups and downs like any couple, but at the end of each and every day, he’s my one and I’m his one. Each day, we choose each other. We enjoy our life and are happy with it. Tough times happen, but I wouldn’t choose anyone else, ever. No one makes me laugh like he can. He makes me feel so loved and cherished. I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 36
I would say we are blissfully in love, even more so then we were dating. Something about the marriage and then having a baby has really brought us closer together. We can talk to each other about pretty much anything, we make each other laugh and we rarely fight.
Post # 37
We just hit our 6-month mark and are very happy. There have been very few bumps along the way (10 years together has taught us how to handle them). We are definitely in love and happily married.
Post # 38
Ok, gush alert. My DH and I have been together for 10 years, married almost 8 and we have two beautiful LOs. We have seriously never had any serious issues that we couldn’t work through. We both are very open and honest with one another, sometimes too honest, but we can work that out also. I knew I would marry him the night I met him. You should never compare your relationship to others, but if I did I would say we have a perfect marriage. 😉
I think most often people fight or argue about money, and we take the attitude that as long as we both communicate about the reality of our financial situation we can make it work. We have a roof over our heads, enough food in our pantry, and each other, we are seriously blessed every day. I CANNOT imagine life any other way.
With all of that said, my life has not worked out nearly like I thought it would, but sometimes instead of resisting you just have to go with the flow. I think if you do that it can be easy to figure out just what is worth fighting for or over.
Post # 39
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Another very very happily married couple here 🙂 We’ve been married for just under 4 months, and every day gets better and better. We felt married for a long time, but since making it official, I think our arguments are a little different, as several PPs mentioned – we are much more determined than ever to resolve every argument quickly and nip things in the bud, and we’re just so happy with where we are in life. Our relationship is stronger than ever.
Post # 40
Like other PPs, I don’t tend to gush about my marriage on WB. But DH and I are approaching our 3rd wedding anniversary in July and we’ve truely never been happier. Being married to DH has been wonderful and our relationship is as strong as ever. 🙂
Post # 42
Im getting married in 3 months and it is a tiny bit scary (cold feet but for no specific reason, Im just the first of my friends to get married) even though Fiance is the best person I have ever met in my life (besides my family of course) and I am a very lucky girl. But nowadays marriages fail more than back in the day. People rather take the easy way out (getting divorced, dating someone new) than working out things with their partner. And on top many women have no self respect and throw themselves at married men.
I grew up without my “father” because he is an a-hole and Im better off without him. But STILL I do believe in marriage! I do believe that marriages can still work, if you find your soulmates and both of you are ALL IN, no matter what comes your way. All you Girls are living proof and you give me even more hope! Thank you for sharing your happiness with us 🙂
Post # 43
Yes. Is marriage always sunshine and happiness and magical fun? Of course not! Will marriage change someone you’re wishy-washy about for the better? No. Marriage is hard work. It’s about compromise and patience and staying together as a team on this journey of life. If you have any doubts whatsoever, those doubts will usually worsen over time. There’d be far less divorce if people didn’t believe they absolutely have to get married and have kids and a house with a white picket fence and a dog. That’s not in the works for many people. In my heart I was totally ready to accept a happy life as a single woman when I met DH. It was completely unexpected for me to have met him at that time. But I (somewhat reluctantly) recognized that we had something very special that was timeless. We make a great team. It’s not perfect, but it makes our lives more fulfilling to be together than apart.
Post # 44
We’re happy! Lol. It can just be a big adjustment, getting used to being around each other pretty much all the time, finances, etc. As long as you love each other and both put in the effort, things will be fine! We always thought that getting married wouldn’t feel any different, since we were already living together for over a year. But we were wrong.. it does feel different! It feels like a deeper, more intimate connection..and just making those vows to each other is awesome.
Okay.. I’ll stop rambling now, LOL.
Post # 45
We’re really happy. On the rare occasion that we do argue, it’s easier to calm down now and get over it because we know we’re not going to break up and nobody is going to leave.
Post # 46
While there’s no perfect relationship and everyone has their own stuff to work on, I can say that 10 months in to marriage I am extremely happy. Obviously every day isn’t sparkles and sunshine, but I couldn’t imagine my life without my husband and love that he challenges me, calls me out when I need it and loves mewholeheartedly. I totally think happiness and loving someone is in big part a choice you make daily, and unfortunately, some people choose to stop investing in their SO over time (barring abuse obviously, which would make the choice not so much of a choice).