(Closed) Are you happily married?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Are you happily married?
    I am very happy. : (133 votes)
    59 %
    We have our ups and downs, but overall, I am happy. : (65 votes)
    29 %
    I sometimes have concerns about my marriage and how compatible we really are : (19 votes)
    8 %
    I am unhappy and really wonder if my marriage will last : (5 votes)
    2 %
    I think I made a serious mistake by getting married : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    959 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m happy in my marriage, but we do have ups and downs. We’ve been married for 6 months, but we’ve been together for 4 years this May. We have gone through a rough patch at the beginning of the year, but we are starting to straighten it out now, and we’re back to where we used to be, or close. I love my husband very much, and vice versa. Having said all that, I have a stressful job and hubby is unhappy in his. We live in an odd arrangment, and we don’t get a lot of privacy, which is tricky in the beginning of a marriage. We are starting to plan a move next early summer out of Nebraska which I am so HAPPY about. I hate it here. So there is some stress in our lives that sometimes affects our moods. Overall though, I am happy and so glad we’re married.

    Post # 17
    Member
    3449 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It’s fair to say that I’m very happy. Even when we argue (which is more like an emotional conversation that doesn’t involve yelling and never lasts more than like an hour or so) I don’t feel un-happy, just maybe frustrated or disappointed and it always passes. I’m very thankful that I’ve never questioned why I got married or wished that I had waited or anything like that. My husband and I are quite similar and get along great most of the time. But I’d be lying if I said we don’t occasionally experience little married-life growing pains. We also have a lot of strikes against us regarding our life situation (he quit his job to move to where I am–and like most men, considers his job a part of his identity and gets a little down about it. On the flip side for me, it’s a lot of pressure on me being the sole provider for our family. He also doesn’t speak the language here and neither of really know anyone so our only outlet in life is each other). But we do a good job of managing the stress so that it doesn’t affect our lives too significantly and wekeep in mind that this is only temporary. Things will be easier for us very soon and I’m sure that our marriage will become even happier. 

    Post # 18
    Member
    9129 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Absolutely.  We were together for over a decade before getting married, so obviously we didn’t rush into anything and we are both very confident that this is 100% for life.  But everything is just a little better after being married… those feelings of security and stability feel even more permanent.  He makes me laugh every single day, we share common values and goals and activities, we motivate each other to get out and pursue new activities and hobbies, etc.  Obviously we have little issues, and infrequently BIG issues, with each other, but overall we are both very happy.

    Post # 19
    Member
    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yes, I am truly happy. I know everyone will probably say that, but I feel so lucky to mean it. It will sound cheesy, but I think about how lucky I am and thankful I am EVERY day that Darling Husband chose to pick me forever.

    Post # 20
    Member
    9129 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Steampunkbride:  Yes, my husband and I went through a life-threatening health issue before our wedding too, and having to test out the “in sickness and in health” vows really did bring our relationship to a whole new level too.  I’m glad your guy is in the clear now – mine too, for the most part.

    Post # 21
    Member
    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    we are very happy together, we are a little stressed becasue we are trying to find a house to buy and it is very difficult.  So that is our one down, but it is understandable.

    Post # 22
    Member
    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We have been married for two years and are very happy. We have ups and downs as all marriages do, and some of our downs have been extremely challenging, worse than anything I thought we would experience so early in our marriage. But I wouldn’t change anything because even the worst arguments have helped us to know and love each other more deeply. 

    Post # 23
    Hostess
    9733 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    I am so freaking happy to be married to my DH! Granted, it has been 2 weeks, but we got married on our 8th year anniversary. He made my heart melt when someone asked him, “Do you feel differently now that you’re married?” To which he responded, “She always will feel like my girlfriend.” Awwww

    Post # 24
    Member
    7310 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I am very happy that I married Mr. LK. But dealing with TTC issues is quite taxing both of us. It’s made for a very rough road that is far from over. There is no one else I’d rather be on this rough road with, and that’s how I know that we will make it in the long run. So am I happy as a general state of being? Some days yes, and some days no. But I I happy to be married to Mr. LK? All day, every day, absolutely yes.

    Post # 25
    Member
    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I voted very happy! We had a big move to another state right after the wedding, and it’s been the first time living together but so far so good! Aside from his keeping the bathroom clean, we’re so happy to finally be married. We dated for almost 6 years before the wedding. I couldnt have asked for a better transition into married life, the Darling Husband made it pretty easy for me! 

    Post # 26
    Member
    2564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I voted “ups and downs but overall happy”.  We can both be quite emotional people which has made communication difficult at times, but at the end of the day he’s awesome, says I am awesome, and we just fit together.  🙂

    Post # 27
    Member
    6117 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I (we) are very happy.  Every year gets better than the last so far, and the first years were pretty amazing. 

    Post # 28
    Member
    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We are very happy as a couple – the past year has been very stressful, and we’re not really out of the high-stress period yet (money is tight right now and we’re getting ready to move, Darling Husband is starting a new career this summer), so obviously there are times when we aren’t in the best mood or start to get on each other’s nerves, but I think we’d both say we’re thankful that we have each other to lean on thoughout all of it.  I feel like if we can get through grad school (and the stress that comes with trying to make ends meet on two grad student incomes, along with all the work on teaching while trying to earn advanced degrees) and remain happy and healthy as a couple, we can get through just about anything else life throws at us 🙂

    Post # 29
    Hostess
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Oh my yes, to the point where I am overwhelmed with just how lucky I am. It hasn’t always been easy but yes I am very happily married. 

    My husband and I not only love each other but we actually enjoy spending time with one another, we have fun together. The key to a successful marriage I truly believe is to not take anything too seriously and to laugh, always remember to laugh.

    Post # 30
    Member
    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Yeah, I’m happy. Like all couples, we have ups and downs, but I’m really pretty content… nothing much has changed since getting married.

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