(Closed) Are you happy with your FI’s participation in wedding planning???

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Your fiance's input
    My fiance has too many opinions, I wish he/she would let me do what I want! : (3 votes)
    3 %
    My fiance has a lot of opinions, but I like his/her help and input : (45 votes)
    42 %
    My fiance doesn't have too many opinions, and it frustrates me : (26 votes)
    24 %
    My fiance doesn't have too many opinions, and I like making the decisions myself : (33 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    1284 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My Fiance sounds a lot like yours :). I’m very happy with his involvement. He is more than happy to be as involved or uninvolved as I want him to be.

    Post # 4
    4193 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Planning’s been pretty good- he’s not causing me any stress, thankfully. There are a few things he really wants (like a rehearsal dinner even though we’re not having a rehearsal-??), and we’re doing almost all of them.

    Post # 5
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @lanipapillon:  He lets me blab on & on to him about place card holders and what shade of purple our cardbox should be.. and just smiles & nods in agreement. He’s helped with the big decisions (the date, the venue, the food) but as far as the little details, the only the bride cares about, he lets me do whatever I want.. and that’s the way I like it!

    Post # 6
    4676 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My situation is a lot like yours.  I try to consider my Fiance in the plans and ask his opinion, even if it is nuetral, or he doesn’t really care. So far he has gone on every consultation with me, and been supportive.  Sometimes I wish that he would take more charge in certain situations, (I asked him to call to the DJ’s and then had to call them back the next day), but overall I don’t mind that he has pretty much taken a back seat to the planning.  

    Post # 8
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My guy is def involved and I love it! He should be I mean it is his wedding too not just mine (I’m not marrying myself!)  🙂 But that’s the way we are with everything we ask each others opinions and come to a decision we’re both happy with!

    Post # 9
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    He was involved in:

    Choosing the venue

    Choosing the DJ

    Picking out the tuxes


    He also went with me to the menu tasting and cake testing. But as far as flowers, invitations, other small details go, he could care less! Which is fine by me… I don’t mind planning most of the stuff by myself.

    Post # 10
    5662 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have assigned mine a few things and he has done registering with me as well as any vendor meetings but as far as the details and stuff my MoH has pretty much helped me with. I do wish that he would take more on but that’s something we have to talk about, i just have to assign him a few more things so I can check them off. I think he can handle reserving a town car to the airport lol. I have a friend who’s fh has been very picky and opinionated and she said while she appreciates it it’s actually super obnoxious so I’m glad I’m not dealing with Someone nixing every idea I have!

    Post # 11
    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My mom and I are doing almost all of the planning. Fiance has a few opinions but he doesn’t really care very much. I run everything by him and he takes an interest when I tell him, but floral arrangements and up-lighting aren’t really his thing!

    Post # 12
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I voted for the last thing, haha.  He does have opinions, but only on certain things.  For example, he couldn’t care less about flowers so that’s up to me, which I like.  I’m happy!

    Post # 13
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My Fiance is pretty involved. I have to do all the research and then give him options. But he throw throws ideas out there. I love his help! This last week he wanted nothing to do with weddings though and that was a sad day since I really wanted help narrowing things down this week. 

    Post # 14
    11 posts
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Im in Delaware planning our wedding and my Fiance is stationed at Fort Riley in KS, so he has absolutely no imput with anything! He’s basically going to show up. Im planning the wedding completely by myself, and although i would like his imput, its not really possible, so im keeping everything a secret. but im picking everything according to what he likes so hopefully hell enjoy all his surprises!

    Post # 15
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Ugh it has been like pullin teeth to get Fiance involved and to help! The only thing he really had a part in was picking the venue, which he had a couple strong opinions about, but really doesn’t care about anything else. It’s frustrating because I am indecisive and could really use the help!

    Post # 16
    7339 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    He’s been very good so far, I ask for his opinions, he gives them to me and I take them into consideration hehehe… he is loving that I am crafty and am doing TONS of DIY!

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