Post # 1
I’m curious to see the percentages of where you’re getting married! A church or a non-church venue (gardens, beach, etc).
I’m the ONLY ONE of ALL my friends in the next year not getting married in a church. I’ve been told it’s not a *real* wedding b/c of this, like it doesn’t count! LoL.
I know I’m not alone!
Post # 3
We’re getting married at the same place as our ceremony–the University of Michigan Union. We had originally booked a church, but various things fell through and this worked out SO much better.
I can’t believe people told you that your wedding wasn’t a "real" wedding because it wasn’t in a church!
Post # 4
We’re not having a church wedding. Honestly, I haven’t been to a church wedding in years. It probably depends on your values and also your circle of friends. I’m sorry to hear people are discounting your wedding because of your location — glad to hear you know better!!
I was very surprised, however, when my JOP requested we use scripture in the ceremony. It’s a nice middle ground for us.
Post # 5
I wanted to get married in Hawaii surrounded by our families, but no one could afford it! So we’re going church wedding with a tropical theme and then going somewhere tropical for the honeymoon.
Post # 6
We’re getting married in a church but most of the weddings of friends we’ve gone to (or are going to this year) are in non-church venues. So we’re sort of the odd ones out!
Post # 7
I’m having a church wedding, but am sad to hear that people are passing judgement on your ceremony! I say anyplace love between 2 people is being celebrated is a good place for a wedding!
Post # 8
We’re doing our ceremony outside on the patio of the restaurant though our officiant is a Presbyterian Minister. My best friend!!
Post # 9
Interestingly enough, about half my friends aren’t terribly religious so i’m kind of surprised at all the church weddings. Maybe it’s a midwest thing for churches to be so common, but i’m from California and I just loooove how pretty outdoor weddings are. To me, it doesn’t matter WHERE we get married, just that we ARE. One of my friends’ mom basically forced her into a church wedding, even though she doesn’t even believe in God, which I find…interesting I guess? And some of them are still practicing Catholics, so I’m not surprised there. I have not been to an outdoor wedding YET.
I’ve learned to laugh it off. We’ll see who has the last laugh when we’re celebrating our 50th anniversary in our speed racer wheelchairs. I just want to see where everyone’s getting married!
Post # 10
Outside at a dude ranch for us! And it will be as real as any church wedding there.
Post # 11
I think its totally normal nowadays not to get married in a church. We are getting married in a historic building but having a minister officiate.
Post # 12
I am not having a church wedding. I dont remember the last time I have been in a church in my life (as my family and I are not religious, and neither is the Fiance) so we decided on an outdoor wedding at his parents house.
Just because you are not having a church wedding doesnt mean it doesnt count! thats rediculous! You are having a ceremony that bonds two people together regardless of location!
Post # 13
We got married, by our priest, with the formal ceremony out of the prayer book…. with our toes in the sand on the shore.
Post # 14
Just like Kate, we are getting married on the terrace behind a restaurant. It is small and intimate and totally us. We like it because it is NOT traditional. The confines of a church don’t make your wedding or your marriage any more real.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2020 - Oakland Manor
We’re getting married in a historic home. I’ve always dreamed of an outdoor wedding whereas my sister chose to have a church wedding. Different strokes for different folks 🙂
Post # 16
We are getting married at a place called Scottish Rite Cathedral. Its a big old solid granite building with all original stained glass and dark stained oak trime. its not a church and we like it that way. The only time we really go to church is Easter with his mom…other than that we sleep on Sundays…The bar isnt open and his office isnt open so we are both off work for once.