(Closed) Are you having a first dance?!

posted 8 years ago in Music
  • poll: Are you having a First Dance?
    Yes, Of Course : (32 votes)
    78 %
    No Way : (2 votes)
    5 %
    I am not sure...(please post below your reasoning) : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Yes but i dont want to : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Yes. πŸ™‚ To us, it’s a really romantic thing that we have dreamed of for a long time now. Part of getting into a relationship sooooo young was that we’ve had to do a lot of waiting. Waiting for people to take us seriously, waiting to be able to spend alone time together in non-clandestine places, waiting for the right time to be engaged, etc. Because of that, certain moments of our wedding have become very symbolic, and because our song means so much to us, that first dance will as well. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1371 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We both went to university for music, so we’re actually thinking of surprising everyone with a first “song” that we wrote together, rather than a first dance.  I’m just a little worried my mom will be disappointed, so I’m still considering it.

    Post # 5
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    We did not…
    After the ceremony, people left for cocktail time while we went for pictures. Then we had dinner with our guests and our official reception ended with dinner. We left to take some more pictures and get changed (in my case.. hubs stayed the same); and had some drinks with our friends – the parents had left to go sleep; the dinner was long.

    Had we had a more traditional wedding, I think we would have put a lot of effort to try and find a way to get out of the “first dance”.

    One thing I saw that was the cutest thing ever at a wedding:
    The couple had their wedding at a ranch, and there was a pond. A bridge led from the land to an island in the middle of the pond. The couple had their first dance there, everyone could see them but they felt isolated. They had fireworks and, sparklers for the guests… pretty cool!

    Post # 6
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    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    We aren’t great dancers but I’m glad we did a first dance.  Not the most graceful first dance but it was still a touching moment between the two of us.  We picked a somewhat short song and half way through invited others to come and dance with us.  It got everyone out on the dance floor because you can’t turn down a couples request during their first dance and then we had a crazy fun song after that to keep everyone out on the dance floor and it worked really well and getting people out of their chairs and starting to dance.

    Post # 7
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    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    yes we are definitely doing a first dance. Nothing to crazy, just a nice “sway”. But for us too, being together since we were in high school, we still remember our first dance at homecoming and it will be an amazing moment to be dancing together 12 years later at our wedding.

    Post # 8
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    1602 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    we definately are just because i’ve never even considered not having it.

    granted N doesn’t really dance, but i figured just a little rock back and forth should do it. i’m looking forward to really having some closeness after a crazy day.

    Post # 9
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    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We met dancing and our wedding is going to be Swing/Lindy Hop themed so it’s only natural that we have a first dance.

    People would wonder if we didn’t have one.

    Post # 10
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    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Hell yeah! We’re actually havin two! My song (Dream a Little Dream, The Mamas & Papas) first, then his (Screaming Trees, third song off the album Dust) second! We will encourage rest of Bridal party to take to the floor prob during second song, but we are gonna be stuck together til las note of that. Then we’ll get into the Father Daughter dances etc. 

    There are so so many compromises to be made for your wedding, don’t budge on smaller, more emotional moments if they mean a lot to you.

    Post # 11
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    2077 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We’re having one.  I am an AWFUL dancer (think Elaine from Seinfeld…yeah…that bad) but I can’t imagine not sharing a slow dance with the one man who doesn’t mind being seen dancing with me.  πŸ˜‰  Besides, my whole family, and most of his, have seen me dance at family gatherings, so no one will be suprized if I do trip or something.

    Post # 12
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    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We’re not doing one – at least not at the wedding πŸ˜› To me the first dance is a very special and intimate thing and to do one that isn’t “you” would be a shame.

    Me and FH are the type of people that like to do spastic, silly dance moves to ‘I like em big’, so a slow awkward swaying thing just didnt suit us. Plus, I’m terrible at handling attention D:

    Our first dance will be in our hotel suite after the wedding – just us. Since, you know, ANY time yall dance together after the marriage is technically your first dance:P

    Post # 13
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    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t know yet. I’m going to go look at our venue and floor plans carefully in December to see if we’ll have any designated space for dancing. I wouldn’t be too sad if it didn’t happen, but then again a first dance might be nice? meh.

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    11258 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I like dancing, we can be close and it’s romantic

    Post # 15
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    5 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We are having a first dance, but we both hate to slow dance, so right now we have decided on “I Can’t Get Enough Of Your Love” by Barry White (this was after I vetoed FIs first choice of “Lets Get It On” by Marvin Gaye. He thought it would be funny, but I dont think that anyone else would get the humor in it).

    Post # 16
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    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We’re undecided. I hate dancing, and I don’t feel comfortable being the center of attention. And for the first dance, everybody is staring at you… Eeek. That scares me.

    FH and I are talking about it though, but neither one of us really want one, so it’s probably not going to happen.

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