(Closed) Are you having a gap?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Are you having a gap where the guests entertain themselves?

    No gap - everyone including bride and groom goes straight to reception

    Less than 1 hour gap

    1-2 hour gap

    2-3 hour gap

    3-4 hour gap

    +4 hour gap

    Hosting a cocktail hour or similar during the entire gap

  • Post # 3
    3169 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We had an hour wait time, we did a first look for the sole purpose of not having it any longer. We actually didn’t even need the hour but used it to spend some time together before the reception. We drove around in the limo for 45 min. while our guests enjoyed cocktail hour.

    Post # 4
    4496 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Gaps are not normal in my circle. It usually goes like this: 


    Cocktail hour 



    The bride & groom might take some photos during the cocktail hour, but it’s not a “gap” for the guests, because it’s the beginning of the party. I consider a gap to be when the ceremony’s at 2 and the reception starts at 7. THAT’s what guests don’t like.

    Post # 6
    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I have never been to a wedding with a gap between the ceremony and reception (I’ve been to about 1 a year for the last 7 years). MY Future Sister-In-Law told me that her schedule is ceremony at 2pm and reception at 5pm. What are we supposed to do between in between? Especially since there will be a lot of out of town guests. I don’t really think that the time can be used for “sight seeing” or things like that. I just don’t know what to do!

    Post # 7
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Catholic bride here so we almost always have a gap.  As you said it is totally normal so people always go to a bar inbetween.  We are actually only having an hour gap.  Ceremony is at 2pm and reception at 4pm.  The reason its only an hour instead of the usual 2 for our chuch and reception venues is based on the time of year and sunset.  My venue is right on a golf course and the bay.  We want people to be able to enjoy the view and the actual sunset to do that we have to start a bit earlier than I would have normally chosen.


    4pm will be cocktail hour and the reception will follow that.

    Post # 8
    11734 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    No gap for us. Ceremony then cocktail hour then reception.  We’re doing pictures before the ceremony, so we’ll be able to enjoy most of the cocktail hour with our guests.

    I don’t mind a gap when it’s a pretty long one if I have a hotel room to crash in and can go nap, hang out, shower again, etc. 

    Post # 9
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I’ve never attended a wedding w/ a gap…granted I’ve also never attended a wedding where the ceremony and reception weren’t in the same venue (I guess I just don’t have many religious aquaintences who had to have their weddings in a church/temple). Every wedding I’ve ever been to had a ceremony, immediately followed by a cocktail hour (which usually actually does last an hour more or less exactly), during which time pictures are taken, and then the dinner/dancing reception. As somebody who never has had to deal w/ a gap before I honestly don’t know wth I would do during one, especially if it was out of town…I personally would pay for a longer cocktail hour for my guests if I wanted to take more pictures (it really shouldn’t take that long to take pictures though, I’ve been in several bridal parties before, none of which had first looks, and we always were able to finish all pictures well before the end of cocktail hour!).

    Post # 10
    10627 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Pinkmoon:  I think having a gap is typical for Canadian weddings.  Even whten I’ve been to weddings in one location, there is a gap for the room to be switched over.  Religious ceremony or not, there has been a gap.  I can only recall one wedding when there wasn’t a gap, but cocktails weren’t provided and we ended up hungry while the bride and groom took pictures.  The wedding also ended much earlier than most.

    I don’t see the problem with a gap.  It gives people the chance to grab some food, and even change if they have a different outfit for the reception.

    Post # 11
    3763 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Catholic here, so yes, we have a small gap. Ceremony at 2:30, Wine & Cheese hour at 4:30, reception at 5:30.

    Post # 12
    2445 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We have like an hour to hour and a half gap for the room flip for the seated dinner. The guests will start drinking and eating appetizers while we’re flipping. It’s never a good idea to do a gap without giving the guests something to do or eat.

    Post # 13
    10627 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

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    @PinkAndPearls2013:  You go out and grab appetizers or drinks.  It’s a good chance to catch up with relatives if the family is spread out, or hang out with friends.  Little kids can run off some energy, and people usually like to take some photos when they are dressed up.

    Post # 14
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Our ceremony is at 3pm at a church and our reception (cocktail hour part) starts at 5:30pm at our venue.

    There’s another couple getting married at 5pm after us, so it is what it is as far as ceremony times.

    Our church is within 2 blocks walking distance (in a city) from the venue. The venue also happens to be a hotel and the majority of our guests are staying at this hotel or the one directly across the street. I’m ok with the gap/downtime because most guests will use the time to check into their hotels and freshen up. For those who choose not to go back to their hotels, there are about a millions bars and restaurants between the church and the reception venue.

    We considered planning an activity (site seeing tour, etc) for the gap, but the more we thought about it, the more we decided it would be way too much for people to be doing wedding-related things for like 10 hours straight…I would be so annoyed if someone stuck me on a bus or something during the gap. I’m an adult and can always find something fun to do with myself during this downtime–even if that fun activity is a nap to get ready for the festivities ahead Wink

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