(Closed) Are you having a head table?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are you doing a head table

    Head table

    Sweetheart table (bridal party with regular guests)

    A combination of sweetheart and head table


  • Post # 17
    1234 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We had regular head table.

    Post # 18
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We’re having a sweetheart table.  I love the idea of us having a semi-private moment together while we eat dinner… and think it looks more cute & romantic than a large table full of people…  Plus we’d like for our wedding party to be able to sit with their dates.  I always feel bad for bridal party dates who are left to sit with a table where they don’t know anybody. 


    Post # 19
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We did a regular old head table. Of the six in the wedding party, only three had dates (one was married, two had their significant others), and there were other people there they knew to sit/eat with, so it wasn’t too much of a problem (we didn’t do assigned seating).

    Post # 20
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We had a head table.

    Post # 21
    2943 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My ExH and I had a King Arthur table at our wedding. We only had one attendant each plus our mutual friend who did a reading, so it worked out beautifully. We didn’t even need a different sized table than the rest of the guests. 

    DH and I decided to do a sweetheart table because it was so much easier. Again, we only had one attendant each. However, we thought his Bridesmaid or Best Man would be much happier sitting at the table with their childhood/young adulthood friends. Unfortunately, my poor Maid/Matron of Honor had to sit at a somewhat random table, though she knew half the people there, but we figured that was less awkward than having her sit as the third person at our table.

    Post # 22
    4687 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    We had us, Maid/Matron of Honor and her boyfriend, and Bridesmaid or Best Man and his wife. Worked great. I think head tables are so lame….I can’t imagine telling an adult whom to sit with, especially at a formal event.

    Post # 23
    164 posts
    Blushing bee

    We are doing a sweetheart table. I have always hated headtables. It’s awkward for the SO’s of the bridal party to have to sit separately with a bunch of people they probably don’t know. I always hated having to do that when I attended as the guest of a groomsmen or making my boyfriend at the time do that when I was a bridesmaid. I always just wanted to sit and enjoy dinner with my guy.  Fiance and I agreed a sweetheart table was the way to go, since all of our attendants are either married or in a relationship (and most of them don’t know one another) and will want to sit with their SOs.

    Post # 24
    9541 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We sat at a regular table with my the best man, his fiance, my Maid/Matron of Honor, her husband and their 2 kids. The rest of the bridal party was scattered at different tables with their SOs. I don’t like the look of a head table where everyone is on one side, and I wanted to be able to visit with people, so I didn’t want a sweetheart, so this worked out well. Honestly, we were only sitting for about 15 minutes to wolf down dinner, so it would have been a waste to have a fancy table. 

    Post # 25
    349 posts
    Helper bee

    I had to vote “neither.”  My daughter and her groom will have a sweetheart table (imagine it at 12:00 on a clock.)  Her bridesmaids and their escorts will fill a table at 11:00, the groomsmen and their dates have a full table at 1:00.  His parents are at 2:00, I (MOB) am with my family at 10:00.  The rest of the tables form the remainder of an oval around the dance floor, for a total of about 20 tables.  I think it’s important to share a few private moments as husband and wife, and by sitting at their own table, I hope they can actually eat a few bites.  Hope that helps!

    Post # 26
    7611 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had a head table and I’ve never been to a wedding that doesn’t have the traditional head table. DH and I have both been the “date” while the other has been in the wedding party. Although we are both fairly shy we had a good time chatting with the people at the table we were seated at. We still had a good time during dinner even though we were separated and didn’t know anyone else at the wedding.

    Post # 27
    551 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @excitedtobeMRSF:  We did exactly what you’re doing! Even though I had never heard of it being done before. I wanted to have dinner alone with my DH & I loved having our own sweetheart table! We had two very long tables for our head tables and the BMs/GMs plus their dates sat at these tables. It worked well and everyone’s dates were very happy with the seating plan 🙂

    Post # 28
    7309 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We sat at one long table with all of our bridal party and all of our guests, dinner party style.

    Post # 29
    3878 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We only did a sweetheart table so the bridal party could sit with their dates. DH and I have both been in weddings and had to sit at a head table and neither of us liked it. It’s awkward because you can only talk to the person next to you, and then your date has to sit elsewhere. Unfortunately DH is best man in an upcoming wedding and they are having a head table, so I will be sitting by myself again. Not a huge deal, but I just don’t get it. They are also doing the bridal party dance, which I really don’t get. Dancing with someone you don’t know to a slow song while your SO watches in the audience? Huh?

    Post # 30
    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We’re just doing a sweetheart table because everyone in my Bridal Party will have family at the wedding, so we’re sitting them with their spouses and family members.

    Post # 31
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We are 95% sure we are doing a bride/groom table with the wedding party and their partners sitting at other tables–as if they were regular guests. We are doing this because some of the partners of our wedding party don’t really know anyone else, so we think it would be incredibly awkward to just stick them at a random table by themselves.

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