Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
Hi Bees! I’m just starting my officiant search, and I noticed that a lot of the officiants who got great reviews in my metro area were women. I’m not surprised either way, but in the stereotypical movie wedding scene, most officiants are men. I was wondering if you would be having a male or female officiant? Did gender play a factor at all in your officiant choice? (Beee honest!)
Post # 3
Gender didn’t really play a factor for us. We wanted someone who knew both of us well, would be a good public speaker and who would respect our differences in religion (he is, I’m not). We ended up asking my new uncle. (He married my aunt last summer so weddings were convieniently near the top of his brain anyways.)
Post # 4
We’re having a male officiant. Gender didn’t play a factor. Both he and his wife are ordained, so if it did, I could have her as our officiant. His prices are reasonable and he lives in the same town we’re getting married in, so that’s why we booked him.
Post # 5
My Uncle is a minister so we’re using him! I think however, if you click with the person and think they will do a good job, gender shouldn’t matter! 🙂
Post # 6
Our pastor is a woman! I’m excited about her, she’s absolutely wonderful. Gender honestly did play a ltitle bit of a factor for me — I felt a teeensy bit weird having my dad walk me down the aisle to my new husband and being married by a male pastor. For some (completely inexplicable) reason I sort of prefer female pastors and knew I’d feel more at ease, more comfortable, etc. Nothing against male pastors of course, I just really can’t describe it.
Luckily she is my FI’s favorite pastor at the church, too, so it was no problem!
Post # 7
We are having my super awesome sister-in-law officiate. She’s in the process of get her certificate online and filing it with the state.
We asked her to do it for several reasons. 1) We are not a member of any church-not to say we are not religious/spirtual but we come from different backgrounds-he was raised Methodist and I was raised Catholic. And we’ve yet to find a church that we both feel comfortable in. 2) We are both shy when it comes to people we don’t know, so we didn’t want to hire any old Rent-A-Reverend. We will feel much more comfortable with it being someone that knows us and loves us. 3) We didn’t want it to be our parents-they already have their “roles” to play. Out of the three brothers between us that are coming to the wedding-they are all quiet types that aren’t comfortable talking in front of big groups of people.
We tossed around the idea of some family friends doing it but none seemed to work out. In the end, it just kind of hit me to ask my SIL. She is very outgoing, very sentimental, and she has been a part of my family for over 25 years. In fact, next week she and my brother will be celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary. And I was a flower girl in their wedding (there is 12 years difference between me and my oldest brother). She was so happy she cried when we asked her. It means so much to us that she will be the one to officiate our wedding.
So to answer your questino (sorry so long!) gender didn’t really play a role. We just wanted someone that knows us well and loves us and my SIL fit the bill perfectly.
Post # 8
My baby brother will be our officant. He has done one wedding and one vow renewal. I am so excited!!
Post # 9
We are having a female and it will be my G’Ma. She marries people in Florida and was eligible to marry us so we found it more personal to have her be the officiant. So obviously, gender did was not a factor for us 🙂
Post # 10
We got married in a catholic church so ours was male. We loved our priest!
Post # 11
Gender didn’t really play a role in our search for an officiant. Once it became clear that we weren’t getting married in a church (various reasons), we wanted to find an officiant who was special to us. A friend/coworker whom I have known for many years (who was in the process of being ordained) offered to perform our ceremony. We couldn’t have been happier to have her!
Post # 12
My Grandaddy is going to be ours. He is asked by his church to teach classes and give sermons a lot, plus he is just a really good public speaker. Lol I just hope he doesn’t say anything too embarassing about me, I need to let him know most officiants let the couple know what they are planning to say I have a feeling he thinks it is supposed to be a suprise.
Oh and he is a Notary Public so we don’t have to worry about him taking a class or anything which is a plus.
Post # 13
we’re having a male, our rabbi. he’s new at our temple so we’re excited because we’re planning on staying at the temple, have our kids grow up there, it’ll be a good start for our relationship with him if he marries us. plus so far we think he’s pretty awesome.
Post # 14
We’re just using a Justice of the Peace. She happened to be female.
Post # 15
A male christian officient and a female jewish officient
Post # 16
gender did not play a roll in our decision. We were considering a woman in the area till we found out a family friend (male) would be able to perform the ceremony.