(Closed) Are you having a traditional wedding or a fusion event?

posted 9 years ago in South Asian
  • poll: Are you having a traditional South Asian wedding or some kind of fusion?
    Traditional : (9 votes)
    17 %
    Fusion : (31 votes)
    58 %
    Both ceremonies : (11 votes)
    21 %
    Other (please explain) : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I’m first generation Dominican American, and my FH is pure midwest.  We are having a bilingual wedding and reception.  Our music tastes are all over the spectrum as I like dance music, R&B and traditional dominican music like Merengue and he likes country music.  He’s uber traditional wants to wear the tux and have me in a white dress.  We have had to make a ton of sacrifices on both sides and had to find unique ideas to make it all work.  We’ve got 26 days and counting, I’ll let you know how it goes.  The ride has been bumpy but the end product should be worth it.

    Post # 4
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    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I’m Asian and Fiance is white.  We are NOT doing any traditional rituals and opted for a more western style wedding.  We do share the same religion and we are doing a traditional Catholic wedding.

    Post # 5
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Originally we were going to just have a traditional Hindu wedding along with a mehendi night, a Garba-Raas night (like a Sangeet) and then the ceremony. Just recently though we have decided to have a minister come and do a ring exchange w/vows after the Hindu priest is done. Fiance is actually catholic but obviously we can’t have a Catholic priest.

    Post # 6
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    The Mr. and I are very proud of our Puerto Rican Heritage so everywhere that we can bring in our traditions we are. Everything being printed will be in English and in Spanish. The only thing is our ceremony will be in English but I will print the program in Spanish so those family member who dont understand English at all or very little will be able to follow along.

    Post # 7
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    36 posts
    Newbee

    I am Hindu and Fiance is Episcopalian, but neither of us is really practicing; however, we’re doing what Rasgoola is doing, except probably with the Christian ceremony first and Hindu second.  FI’s mom is good friends with two ministers, so that part should be easy.  I put my mom in charge of finding the Hindu priest…

    Post # 8
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    17 posts
    Newbee

    I’m Pakistani Christian and FH is Indian Gujrati Hindu. We are having a non-denominational Christian wedding.. honestly I believe only a non-denominational minister would marry a Christian and Hindu. We are for now thinking about incorporating some Indian Traditions like exchanging of Garlands and maybe a reading from Gita but we haven’t worked out details yet.

    Our reception is going to be completely Traditional Indian/Pakistani with traditional food. … I’m just hoping Mother-In-Law is not too upset with me for having "non-vegetarian" food at the reception, she tried to get me to become vegetarian in the begining 🙂

     

    Post # 9
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    83 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m Hindu Indian and Fiance is Buddhist Sri Lankan.  We’re going for two ceremonies instead of a fusion ceremony.  It feels odd blending one culture/religion that believes in many gods with another that believes in no god, so we opted for 2 ceremonies.  Besides, Fiance goes to the vihara often and I go to temple once in a while so we’re both practicing.  Hindu will probably be in the morning and Sri Lankan in the evening.  We’re trying to keep the Hindu one under an hour.  Anyone trying to do that too?  Seems like it’s an incredible task!

    Post # 10
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    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Mine will be sort of a fusion, a Christian ceremony with a baraat, jai mala, and bridesmaids bringing me in to the "alter". 🙂

    Post # 11
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I am from Spanish descent and am Catholic. My Fiance is a pakistani atheist from a muslim family. I am trying combine traditions from both side. Kind of hard to seek advice from his family that is not happy about me not being muslim. I am getting some help from other indian friends. We decided to do a garden ceremony. No church, no religion inolved. He said he would gladly have the catholic church wedding if it meant making me happy. But because he offered that on his own, it made it easy for me to decide not to have a church or temple ceremony. Its about making both of us happy. And I guess also to TRY to make both families happy.  Its going to be colorful. I love that about Indian weddings. White bores me. Thinking of doing the flower garland. It’s a fusion, since in catholic ceremony we do the lasso which signifies the unity of the couple. And well now that lasso is made of fresh flowers for our ceremony. I am wearing a very traditional, very vintage spanish dress. Nothing poofy, Straight with alot of lace & bead detail with the flat veil similar to the dupatta.That was so hard to find! The dress is ivory. I wouldnt mind doing the mehndi. His brothers and sisters now seem to accept the marriage. They know his brother is not changing his mind. Still looking for ideas.

    Post # 12
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m a practicing Hindu and my fiancee is a non-practicing Lutheran.  He is very involved in the wedding planning, and would also like to see a traditional American style wedding (although non-denominational).  So we are planning on a "wedding weekend".  Saturday will consist of a rehearsal lunch, and in the evening have a Mehndi party and Sangeet.  Sunday we will have a Hindu ceremony about 2PM in traditional lengha, etc.  Have cocktails and hors d’oeuvres followed by a non-denominational American ceremony with clothing change (I’m thinking of wearing a red wedding dress!) followed immediately by the dinner/reception.  We’re still in the process of working out the details, but we feel this embraces both cultures adequately.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’m east asian and my Fiance is Jewish.  Our fushion wedding will consist of a mostly Jewish ceremony plus a tea ceremony thrown in somewhere!

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Bump! I’d like to hear what other SA brides are planning. I don’t think we’ll be able to justify the expense of two ceremonies, plus neither of us is very religious, so we’ll probably write our own! I’m South Asian, he’s Caucasian American (Western European descent).

    @lilmisssha: I’ve heard that the Vedic rites can be done in an hour, if you’re careful. I think we might go this route.

    Post # 15
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    13 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My fiance is jewish and I’m a hindu. We’re actually having two ceremonies in one day – A morning hindu ceremony, followed by an indian buffet lunch, and then during sunset a jewish ceremony, followed by cocktail hour, and a formal dinner reception with the works =)

    Post # 16
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    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’m an American-born Gujrati Jain and my Fiance is White and Presbyterian.  We’ve been lucky enough to find two amazing officiants who are willing to let us doing a combined ceremony, where we are alternating between both religions every other step.  We figured we would be living blended lives, so why not start off our married lives together blended as well.  The Chrisitian Pastor and my Fiance parents have been so great about everything and I think it really helped them to see that while the way we practice the religions might be different, the fundamental beliefs and morals between the two are quite similar.

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