(Closed) Are you having/ did you have a flower girl and ring bearer at your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Did you have or are you planning to have a flower girl and ring bearer?

    Yes

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  • Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    3 flower girls, no ring bearer, so I wasn’t sure how to vote

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Yes on flower girls because we have a few nieces and cousins who are 3-6 years old and we want them to feel included. No on ring bearers bc all of the young gentlemen in our family are preteen age so taking on “ring bearer” duties would be a bit too babyish. Definitely not a necessity but we wanted to include as much family as possible in the ceremony.

    Post # 19
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We’re having a flower girl – my FI’s 5-year-old niece, but no ring bearer. If said niece didn’t exist then we wouldn’t have had a flower girl either. I think its cute to have them, but not a big deal if you don’t.

    Post # 20
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m really excited to have my nephew (who will be 5) and his best friend (who will be 4.5) as our ring bearer and flower girl. I think they’ll do a great job and it’s nice to have a way to incoorprate them. 

    I absolutely do not think it’s necessary, but seeing as we have kids we’re close to, I really wanted to have them in it. 

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Nope. No kids invited.

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would not have gone out of my way to find children that I wasn’t close to to fill the roles, but I have a niece who will be almost 2 and my Fiance has a niece who will be 4 and a half at the time of the wedding, so they will be our flower girls. If we didn’t have either of them I might have asked my bridesmaid’s daughter, but she’ll be closer to one and a half than two, so it might have been harder. I’m also considering asking a sweet boy that I babysit for all the time to be ring bearer, he’ll be 7 at the time of the wedding. I’ll ask his parents first, though, my wedding is out of state (from where I live, it’s where my Fiance lives) and I don’t know for sure that they’ll come or that they’ll bring him if they do. I’m going to try to figure out if they’re coming before I ask, because I don’t want them to feel pressured to come or to bring him just so that I’ll have a ring bearer.

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Nope, there won’t be any kids at our wedding at all.  But even if we hadn’t made that decision, no one that we know well even has kids within that age range, so we wouldn’t have had a flower girl or ring bearer anyway.  It’s totally optional and depends on your situation!

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I didn’t actually PLAN to have them, but my cousins’ children were really excited about it (the two oldest ones had been flower girls in two other family weddings) and kept asking me about it… and how do you say no to adorable little children? I just couldn’t say no. So I had three flower girls and a ringbearer.

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    yep. i only have two cousins, they’ll be five at the time of our wedding. so we’ll have them as our flower girl & ring bearer. i felt like they should be involved, seeing as they’re the only little kids. FI’s best man has two daughters. if he plans on having his kids come out, then we may ask his oldest to be a flower girl as well.

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yes. Infact, I’m having SIX: four “flower girls” and two “ring bearers,” except they will not be handling flower petals or wedding rings at all. We’re doing it this way because my fiance has six neices and nephews that are all very close, and it would probably be hurtful to have to pick just one of the girls and/or one of the boys. We decided to have them all particpate and they will be waving ribbon wands down the aisle instead. I have no small children in my family. It was actually one of first and easiest decisions we made.

    Post # 27
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We had flower girls because of a longstanding family tradition, but used our dog as the ring bearer (but he didn’t carry the rings or anything).

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Nope, never thought I needed them! 

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Yes bc they are my nieces and I knew they (well the older one) would be a part of my wedfing before I met Fiance. Otherwise I’m not having kids there.

    Post # 30
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Lots of kids invited because their families are invited – but no bearer/flower girl, because we didn’t know anyone of that age well enough. If we had relatives or close friends that age that wanted to be involved, we would have. Just a matter of circumstance for us.

    Post # 31
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Although most of the weddings I’ve been to recently have had a flower girl and ring bearer, it definitely isn’t necessary, and it’s also okay to just have one or the other (or I’ve seen weddings with multiple of each!)  We are going to have just a ring bearer (FI’s nephew) because we are close to him, but we don’t have any neices, so we aren’t going to have a Flower Girl.  It’s definitely not something I would not have gone out of my way to find.  I think it’s more important to only include those in your wedding party that you are close to, rather than including people just for the sake of filling traditional roles.  It’s your wedding, so you are free to do whatever makes you and your Fiance happy with this one!  

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